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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...
A little humility goes a long way
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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
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I don't want to leave my boyfriend but I don't know how we can go back to being lovers now that I've cheated on him and that we've been living as 'friends' for a year
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and half and we have been living together for a year. He started having serious back problems a year ago and we have not had sex since then. He now wants us to buy a flat together but I am scared of committing ...
A. 23 April 2012: You don't want to leave your Bf? A little too late for the realization, since you've already cheated on him. Your relationship is irreparable and you shouldn't mislead him any longer. The problem with you is that you're not sure of what you want. ... (read in full...)
I told my creepy co-worker to back off, now he has should I give him his stuff back?
Q. I posted a question on here about a creepy security guard who is six years older than me (he's 26-I'm freshly 20) and constantly following me around, staring at me while standing over the front desk (I work in a museum) and always wanting to walk me ...
A. 17 April 2012: You were not too harsh with him, sometimes you need to take a firm step with people who don't get the hint. Don't ever feel guilty about it. Always remember, you do not have to feel apologetic about your safety.
Secondly, return his things a... (read in full...)
Completely infatuated with a girl at work but I'm her superior at work, I'm married and she has a boyfriend!
Q. Need help interpreting things. Completely infatuated with a girl at work. I think mainly because I feel that I would occasionally get some vibes... Don't want to misinterpret anything. She's really cute, slightly shy. Plays with her...
A. 17 April 2012: YouWish explained it best. "A 10-second orgasm is NOT worth the price."
You have your marriage, your job and your everything that you have worked for till today, at stake. Just because someone gives you "the vibes" doesn't mean you have to act u... (read in full...)
Do feelings get stronger the more you sleep with someone?
Q. So i've heard many times how women have to have emotion usually before they sleep with someone an men there emotions come after the sex. Is that true? The more you sleep with someone, feelings do end up getting stronger...
A. 17 April 2012: "The more you sleep with someone, feelings do end up getting stronger" If that were true, FWB's would be the best thing ever. Are they? Do a quick search on this site and see for yourself.
Never equate casual sex with feelings. Sex in a meaningf... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend that being drunk led to fooling around?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 plus years. He's so great we have the best times. We obviously fight and have our ups and downs but we always get thru them. I'm 24 he's 36. I'm a flight attendant and I don't usually go out and party...
A. 15 April 2012: When people say they got drunk and fooled around despite having a "great" relationship back home, I cant help but feel that if the relationship was that great, would you really have fooled around? How can you cheat on someone you love no matter how ... (read in full...)
I got rejected by a guy after just one date!
Q. I met this guy a week ago at a party and we made out. He asked for my number and I got all excited about going on a date with him. We finally met up last night - though I was really, really tired - for an hour or so. He was really affectionate and I ...
A. 14 April 2012: Well sometimes people just dont click. Look at the bright side, at least he didnt lead you on for sex...ditching you then would have been much, much worse and you wouldn't even know which of the two was worse, your break up or this. I can imagine it ... (read in full...)
I feel like a freak because I don't want children!
Q. Is it weird that I don't want children? Sometimes I feel like a freak. All the women in my family are VERY fertile, they all have kids and most started at young ages. Even all the men in my family have or want children. So when I tell my mother and ...
A. 14 April 2012: I don't want kids either and I'm 29 now, so I'm pretty sure I know what I want and what I don't want! Sure I get the occasional "we have to talk" session with my mom, where she sits me down and tries to convince me to get married and have a baby so ... (read in full...)
She's a virgin and I don't know if I can handle it
Q. This is a long one. I'm 22, she's 23, and she's amazing. We've been together for about 8 months and so far she's everything I want a woman. There are just 2 issues. 1st, she lives far away. She is currently going to school in Israel and will ...
A. 12 April 2012: You cannot and should not have to convince anyone for sex. It's something that comes from within and it a very personal choice. Just because you are a very sexual person does not mean that it is the girl's duty to match up to you. She could be ... (read in full...)
What the hell happened? We went from being everything to nothing and I don't even know why
Q. Need a bit of advice / help to guide me through this one. This is a long post. So, I met one girl online around December. Started dating her regularly week to week for couple of months. I had sex with this girl and lost my virginity to her...
A. 11 April 2012: Your pain is palpable and its obvious you are very hurt but unfortunately there is nothing you can do. Every person is different OP, you can never know what someone is thinking about or what their intentions are. She probably found someone else, was ... (read in full...)
This girl I work with is cheating on her fiance! Should I tell him or stay out of it?
Q. Should I say something? Or say out of it? There is a girl Ive worked with at work that I got to know very well. Ive even met her fiance about four or five times when he stops over at are work to pick her up which they will be getting married ...
A. 11 April 2012: Stay out of it. There's a huge chance the fiance will never believe you, and why should he? I'm sure he thinks highly of this girl and can never imagine her as the person that she actually is. In that case, the first thing that would cross his mind ... (read in full...)
B/f doesn't know that I can get into his facebook and see him flirting with his ex
Q. hello i really need some help please. so im dating my boyfriend for ten months now. we're both eighteen. well one of his ex's added him on facebook a few months ago. well now he goes on everyday and talks to her. he lies to me saying he's talking to ...
A. 10 April 2012: What a mess (sigh)! It's clear you dont trust him or you wouldnt have snooped into his account because that is his personal space. You know what you have been doing is wrong which is why you have been snooping on the sly, and your B/f also knows ... (read in full...)
She was a virgin when she met me but had dated a guy before me, I get so jealous because of this! Am I wrong? What should I do?
Q. I'm 5 years of marriage and i am my wife's first man, she was virgin before me i wasn't. The fact is she used to date a guy by distance and we have a lovely friend who is this guy parent! I get jealous everytime we have to go to a child party or to ...
A. 10 April 2012: OP you do know you're not going to be spared for this one right? You're punishing your wife for DATING another man while you had sex with other women before her! Going by your logic, she should have kicked you to the curb! Please grow up and don't ... (read in full...)
Paranoid about loose skin and having a sagging tummy after birth....
Q. I'm about to give birth in a couple months and I am paranoid about loose skin and having a saggy tummy for the rest of my life. Most girls I know get permanent saggy bellies after giving birth yet there was one who has had three babies and yet looks ...
A. 10 April 2012: My mom has a flat stomach and no stretch marks despite having two kids. As Cerberus said, you must wear a post pregnancy belly wrap or a corset, it really works. There is no saggy skin, it tucks the tummy in and prevents it from becoming all loose ... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to have sex with another man, but he doesn't want to watch, he just wants me to tell him about it. What is this called?
Q. Can someone please tell me... " my husband wants me to have sex with another man, he does not want to watch but he wants me to tell him about it" What is this called? ...
A. 10 April 2012: Its called the end of the marriage. ... (read in full...)
Why did he leave me when things were going so well?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I were in a long distance relationship for over 2 months but still saw each other every weekend and talked lots during the day by txt, phone, facebook and were really close and happy. He treated me like a princess and I treated ...
A. 10 April 2012: I don't believe all the jazz about him missing you so much that he had to let you go. Love isn't complicated, its not rocket science. If you love someone, you cannot imagine a life without them, you are everything for your partner and vice versa.
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Someone hacked into my account and told my ex that I love him but I don't
Q. my facebook account got hacked recently, and the hacker told my ex on chat that i still loves him and never stopped the problem is by the time i saw the hackers message my ex had replied "i love you too, you know i do u r the one 4 me 3" i feel ...
A. 9 April 2012: That's really unfortunate and a nasty trick to play. There's nothing that you can do except clarify immediately and tell your ex the truth. Keep in mind though that the hacker is someone close to you who knows all about you, even your password and ... (read in full...)
B/f has pics of his ex saved on his computer and says that he still loves her, but in a way where he cares about and worries about her
Q. Hi. I have been with my bf for 18 months and he recently told me he still loves his ex, but in a way where he cares about and worries about her. He tells me I am his future etc. This initially caused some tension between us but I want to believe ...
A. 5 April 2012: I would be concerned too, if I were in your place. I'll be honest with you, he's not over her. Its good to wish well for others, but he need not be worried or concerned for his ex, because that's none of his business. ... (read in full...)
Is there a name for my weird fetish?
Q. Hi When I am in bed at night, instead of masturbating over my crush and thinking about sex with her, I do something a little different. I imagine the two of us together in my bed and holding/hugging each other, but kind of really tightly, like...
A. 4 April 2012: That's not a fetish, its completely normal... (read in full...)
Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!
Q. ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...
A. 3 April 2012: You've decided what you want and that's OK, everyone doesn't have a conscience. I feel sorry for your fiance though. Anyway, its your life and your decision but remember, "telling the truth and making someone cry is better than telling a lie and ... (read in full...)
Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!
Q. ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...
A. 2 April 2012: This isnt as complicated as it sounds because you have two very clear options and its either this or that.
Either you tell him the truth and leave it to him to decide OR you don't say a single word, carry on with life as it is and never ever men... (read in full...)
Why cant I get over my ex? There is nothing spectacular about him that makes him better than my other exes and other guys I know
Q. My ex and I dated for a year, but we broke up due to distance. It's been a year since we broke up, and I have dated someone else. Now we are both beginning new relationships. However, I can't get over him and knowing about his new relationship ...
A. 2 April 2012: You cant get over your ex because there was no proper end to your relationship. You didnt have a good enough reason for ending it, you broke up because you had to, not because you wanted to. There is some part of your mind that where there's the ... (read in full...)
Was it wrong that I had sex with my best friend's son? His dad and I are not in a serious relationship and never have been
Q. I had sex with my best friend's son. His son is near my age and though we have had a past including being intimate, part of me doesn't see it's that wrong but the other part does. His son pursued me for a while, flirted, we went out together to ...
A. 1 April 2012: You are best friends with a man old enough to be your father (if his son is the same age as you), and you messed around with the son. What do you and the older man have in common to be best friends? Has he never introduced you to his son, given the ... (read in full...)
I need to get past this shock!
Q. I've been in a serious relationship for 16 months now and everything has been perfect. We never argue, enjoy each others company. Have lived together since August and continually talk about our future together. This morning however, he popped out to ...
A. 1 April 2012: It seems like a genuine mistake. Don't jump to conclusions, I'm sure he wasn't masturbating to them, I doubt if the thought even entered his head!
Remember that no matter how stunning his ex was, she is not a part of his life now, YOU are. You... (read in full...)
He thinks its okay to toy with my emotions!
Q. Why the need to hurt me? My ex and i broke up a few months back, it wasnt a good relationship, he had been hurtful and abusive to me, we also had kids which is why i choose to end it. He has continued to try and get back with me even though he still ...
A. 31 March 2012: He's toying with your emotions because
a.)you're allowing him to, and
b.) he knows he still has the power to hurt you emotionally, because YOU have given him that power.
If you become indifferent to him and look at him as just the father of yo... (read in full...)
I now regret taking him back after his fourth cheating episode!
Q. my partner of two years has technically cheated on me and i have taken him back for the fourth time and now i am regretting it what should i do?...
A. 31 March 2012: Whats "technical cheating" and non technical cheating? All I know is that if he cheated on you and this is the fourth time that you've taken him back, then he is a serial cheater and will never change. Stop regretting it, act on it instead. Throw ... (read in full...)
Is this girl pregnant with my boyfriend's baby? I cant even ask him because he's locked up!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time he's bad but I really love him and he loves me very much,I'm only16 and I need help?...I found out that he was texting other girls...one of their names was Gina,now this was about five months ...
A. 31 March 2012: Your life hasn't even started properly yet, and here you are wondering about all these nasty problems. When I was your age I didnt even know that such problems existed. (Sigh!)
You are growing up way too fast, you're involved with a guy who's go... (read in full...)
We've been together four years and I've always hoped he would change!
Q. Hi, I've been with my bf for about 4 yrs. We've had our share of issues. I always hoped somehow he would change, but I don't believe he will. Sometimes its incredible he's sooo complimentive, charming, he will cook for me treat me great and o...
A. 31 March 2012: Wait a second, he's hit you? That's it, out of the door. NOW.... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to discredit all the good we had in our relationship? Did I take it all for granted and basically throw a good thing away?
Q. Just wanting to know people's opinions.... I asked a question about this before, but there is new information now... My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. From the beginning, he has been very loving towards me, tel...
A. 31 March 2012: OK here's what I think.
You were mad at him (and rightly so) about keeping you hidden like a dirty secret when all the while he was harboring feelings for his ex. Where you went wrong was in snooping. You were so caught up in trying to prove hi... (read in full...)
Tattoos and Relationships
Q. Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
A. 30 March 2012: I dont think I've ever seen a tattoo look classy. I've never looked at a tattoo and felt, "Oh that's great, I should have it too"! For me, a permanent ink mark on my body which is going to last FOREVER is a big no. I love my body as it is and I will ... (read in full...)
Do you think I am Asexual?
Q. Hello everybody. I am seeking some advise from you. I am a 21 years old female and recently i've been dealing with something that trully botheres me. I have been in relationships before, and i have taken my time, plus the guys were always very...
A. 30 March 2012: You are not asexual, you've just not met the right person, someone you really WANT to have sex with. Its a good thing actually, there's no rush to sleep with anyone just for the sake of it. Take your time, there's nothing to worry about.... (read in full...)
Is wearing a sheer or see thru bathing suit OK?
Q. My boyfriend (of many years) asked me to remove the lining from a couple of my bikini's, so that when we go to the beach they will be see through. I did this to one of my darker suits, the results being not too dramatic. More noticible on top, but ...
A. 29 March 2012: You can do this at a nudist beach but anywhere else, it would just look tacky and an attention drawing tactic . Plus, its not even right to expose yourself in this way in the presence of children. Keep your fantasies for the bedroom, the world need ... (read in full...)
Is something going on between my B/f and his second cousin? What did those text messages mean?
Q. I’d like some input. I, begrudgingly, checked my boyfriend’s phone back in October because I had the strange feeling I couldn’t trust him. I found some text messages he had sent to his second cousin, but they were so obscure that I couldn’t tell for ...
A. 28 March 2012: Yes, he's cheating on you, no doubts about that. If anything, asking a cousin about her periods is very, very weird! Somethings not right.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is videotaping other girls at the beach
Q. Hi, I went on a vacation with my boyfriend to an all inclusive resort he brought a video camera and I noticed he videotaped other girls at the beach... He was panning in on their breasts and butts and just videotaping girls. There were other video...
A. 28 March 2012: Is this question for real? Your boyfriend is videotaping girls at the beach and you're asking us if you're supposed to ignore this?! And what, you just found his tapes lying around for you to see?
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Dumped for a rich guy: was girl being shallow or practical?
Q. Yeah so a couple weeks ago this girl I was seeing for a few months. Really pretty girl, my friends even said he was hot. I'm an average guy, maybe a 6 on a scale of 1 to 10. I make a decent living but def not rich. Anyway, to make a long story short ...
A. 27 March 2012: Its a bit of both, she's shallow and practical as well, to a certain extent. We criticize people for saying that they would rather choose money over love, but lets face it OP, money IS important. At the end of the day, its a personal choice. Some of ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my brother in law that his wife wasn't a virgin when they married?
Q. I just found out something and I'm not sure if I should keep to myself. My wife is the youngest of 3 daughters. Her next oldest sister just filed for divorce and is already dating and sleeping with men even though her divorce isn't final. My ...
A. 27 March 2012: Stay out of things that dont concern you. Its none of your business and you shouldn't interfere in other people's lives and relationships. ... (read in full...)
Met an aspiring actress, got on so well with her but found out she plans to sleep her way to the top!
Q. Right so last week met this girl a stunner at a local pub. we got on right away and i started seeing her. everything was going just fine until we started off talking about careers and she revealed that her plan is to sleep her way into roles! I was ...
A. 26 March 2012: Wow! You have to at least give her points for being honest! Apart from that, she's just a sad little person, who has the most wrong ideas and yet thinks she knows it all.
There's something called hard work, dedication, determination and sincerit... (read in full...)
How do I get through this with my head held high? And what about the guy, did he actually like me?
Q. So this is the situation... I met a really lovely cancerian guy aged 27 through a really good friend, whilst out for drinks. We ended up going out almost every week after that as a threesome for dinner and drinks, for about a month. So one da...
A. 26 March 2012: You're right OP, you will look back at this and laugh. And you should never settle for anyone or anything in life, trust me, there will be so many better people for you to be friends with, and a wonderful man for you to be with. Till then endure ... (read in full...)
How do I get through this with my head held high? And what about the guy, did he actually like me?
Q. So this is the situation... I met a really lovely cancerian guy aged 27 through a really good friend, whilst out for drinks. We ended up going out almost every week after that as a threesome for dinner and drinks, for about a month. So one da...
A. 26 March 2012: This seems like something that was doomed from the word go. Your friend wasn't too happy about this and you were ready for sex on the first date. You left an 8 year marriage in Dec 2011 and within three months you were sending out feelers that ... (read in full...)
I want to kiss passionately but nothing else. Is that wrong?
Q. I am very religious and my boyfriend of 2 years is not. About two months ago he stopped kissing me passionately because he says he finds it easier to control himself because he gets carried away when the making out it gets hot and he really doesn't ...
A. 26 March 2012: Its certainly not wrong to not want sex before marriage but OP you cant have your cake and eat it too. Kissing passionately is a part of foreplay, its a huge turn on. Your B/f has been doing a great job of respecting your decision of no sex before ... (read in full...)
I trust my boyfriend with my heart, but I can't trust his "friend" whatsoever. Should I be worried that something will happen between them?
Q. Here's my situation: I've been officially dating this guy for a little less than a month, though we've been together for about a month and a half... When we first met we instantly clicked! I couldn't take my eyes off of him, and from what everyone...
A. 26 March 2012: I dont understand this- your Bf calls her a psycho, yet he is upset when she makes him look like the bad guy and he agrees to go to the beach even though he apparently hates it there. Something doesnt quite add up...why is he going out of his way ... (read in full...)
My friend owes me money and will not pay up!
Q. This isn't exactly a Relationship problem but I have a 'friend' who I gave a loan of €250 last year, she is now engaged to her boyfriend of two months and quit her job to spend more time with him. I have panic attacks due to lack of money and I ha...
A. 25 March 2012: There was a similar question that I had answered and the OP actually ended up getting the money...finally!
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-loaned-my-friends-some-money-for-a46.html
I think you shouldn't just let go, because your money is yo... (read in full...)
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