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writes:My b/f has been very much involved in the behaviour management of my 17 year old. My son is very intellient but very rude and argumentative and drives me mad and I have had to get social services and counselling organised for him. I turned to my b/f for support and I thought we was supporting me. Now I have noticed that he is turning things against me and blaming me for my sons behaviour.For example my son has been catch shop lifting. My youngest brought home someone elses toy by mistake and my middle son told him to say he found it on a bus. My b/f turns around and asks why do all my children steal - he swore non of his children steal.I have had a hard ride bring up my two older ones on my own. I was with their dad for ten years and he was not very supportive at all. I have noticed a lot of support from my current b/f but we do not live together, he does not maintain his child; I have to keep asking and asking. Last year I got £100 for the year.I am a manager in education and earn nearly £40,000 per year. I own two houses. He seems to think I am rolling in it yet most of my arguments with my sons are based around money.Any advice appreciated.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your response. You have left me thinking.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (28 February 2009):
If you are going to him for support... are you still going to him because you love him as well??
It could be that he only ever sees you using him as an emotional crutch at the moment because you only have your sons problems in your head.
When was the last time you went and had a night about him and were romantic and mushy together?
Try to be a bit more loving.
Of course it could be that he's just an idiot as well and if the loving bit doesn't work then you may have to ask yourself if you are going to be happier without his influence in your life.
Good Luck!! xx
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