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writes:ive been single for 14months i get alot of guys cos guys think am cute and sexy.. but they just want me for sex.. and obviously i didn't give in and they've all disappeared..i like sex when am in a relationship and in love. and ive met this guy..hes soo sweet and he really cares about me.. and hes not asked for sex or anything like that yet..we just flirt and kiss and hes ok with that.he keeps asking me how long have i been single for..cos how can a gorgeous girl like me be single. and am scared he'd be put off if tell him ive been single and not had sex for 14months..cos ive been waiting for a guy who wants me not just for sex.what to you think??serious answerrs only please..xthnx..xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionaww thank you all soo much...
to r_a_w_r1645... i dont mean am soo gorgeous.. is my guy who says he cant believe nice girl like me was single when we met..""
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reader, r_a_w_r1645  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 no, honesty is key. he'll like that u havent had a bf in a while or sex becuz he wants u to be only his. but fyi ur a little full of urself saying ur soooo gorgeous. just saying.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): i dont think u've anythin 2 b scared about at all, if anything dis guy ur with now will admire u because u have respect for urself and dont just jump in2 bed wit every guy dat show's interest in u! so b honest with him and im sure he'll b happy dat u were!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 February 2010):
He's more likely to think you're a gem and he'll secretly be very impressed and proud. Don't worry for a moment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): I think he would be proud of you for waiting for the right guy to come along. He might feel more secure, too, knowing you're not just going to give it away anywhere, which is the trend these days. He'll feel it's nice to know there are a few like you who have more class when it comes to sex. If it were me I'd be alot more worried about the diseased ones who can't live without sex or multiple guys to make them feel important, or the ones who just do it for fun or everytime they party. He's lucky if you're that way, instead, and have the conscience to know the difference. If you like him, tell him the truth about anything and everything you feel you have to say. It's alot healthier, and will only solidify your relationship, in most cases. Hiding anything you feel is important will distance you, and may destroy what great relationship you could otherwise have together. He shouldn't judge you for your past, anyway. Judging will hurt you and destroy your feelings and relationship, as well, so it's a two way street. Most guys, though, will certainly feel comfortable and proud to be with you, if that's how you are. Good luck, and don't be afraid to tell him what's on your mind. Let him know to speak his mind as freely, also, and you'll have a strong, loving relationship.
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reader, needtoknow35 +, writes (18 February 2010):
 to be honest with you thats a real turn on for a guy just like some guys like to have sex with virgins its all the same there to that makes him feel special and in his mind he is thinking its something special about him that you chose to have and no one else fourteen months is like going thru a stage of virgin hood in the eyes of a male. girl do you know how tight you are down there i would know i am a registered nurse have been for 7 years now 14 months sweetie he cant wait to get you and keep you that way he know he has nothing recent to compete with and he will be your number one! lol relax sweetheart it will all work out trust me
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): The truth will probably make you seem MORE desirable, if anything.
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reader, sltaylor +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Well, I dont think its a bad thing at all. In fact, he will probably respect you more. You guys are building up the anticipation and are actually courting, which is something that isnt done this day in age. I think its wonderful. Good for you, girl! You respect yourself. Thats awesome! And if the guy is as sweet as you say he is then he will be fine with it. Once again, good for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): If he gets scared off by that (Im not sure why he would be scared off by that by the way) then obviously he's not for you. He has to accept you as you are, you're not a girl who dates just about anyone, so if he can't deal with that it's his loss. Just tell him the truth! Always be honest, or your relationships will fail.
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