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Would a fleshlight help a 32 male virgin gain some practice?

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Question - (29 June 2014) 6 Answers - (Newest, 10 April 2015)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Just a question. i posted earlier about being a 32 year old virgin. And poster Abella gave encouraging advice about it.

i know and understand that a fleshlight with a mounting device that helps simulate doggy and missionary - and a mouth mold component meant to create the sensation and suction you get from a blowjob - does not replace a real woman or a relationship.

but i don't see the harm in getting in some practice and getting my pelvic muscles strong.

i also keep hearing about kegel exercise and edging too. never done it before. what is it exactly?

now that i have decided to get it eventually. do any men here have any practice using it? i keep hearing conflicting advice about it.

one guy over at a forum called "pegym" talked about how it's important to be able to to mimic sex as much as possible with the fleshlight. He taked about how he can last for an hour with the fleshlight if he lies or sits down, but its much harder in the positions where you do the work such as doggy,on top, etc

and that it's all about practice and training with it long-term approach. and building up stamina.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2015):

yes I don't see why not

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2014):

Do it if you like, but it won't prepare you.

What might prepare you is if you masturbate with a condom on sometimes. At least you will be familiar with how to wear it, because a lot of women - even experienced women - are not. This is the sort of thing that men are expected to procure and know how to use. Yes, some women provide them. Yes, some women are experts. They are the exceptions.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2014):

If you have premature ejaculation then pelvic floor muscle exercises (kegels) have been known to help a little.

I'm not sure whether the fleshlight would help (although it may claim to) but I guess it might.

But you seem very fixed on improving stamina. The guy you sopke to said that he can last an hour with the fleshlight. Unless this guy just likes marathon wank sessions, there's little point in building up stamina quite that much. Sure, if premature ejaculation is the issue then "lasting longer" is something to be worked on but lasting longer than 10 - 20 minutes is a waste. Most women start to get sore, uncomfortable and even a bit bored after much longer than that. It's a myth that it gives women more, better or longer orgasms.

What you've bought is a sex toy which won't teach you much about "real" sex but you can enjoy yourself with it. Use it as you see fit - experiment with it. Like most sex toys I don't think there's a "one proper" way of using it it's up to the user to give themselves sexual pleasure.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 June 2014):

Honeypie agony auntNo I don't think it will help at all.

There is a WASTE difference fro ma tight grip of a hand or fleshlight and the feel of a woman's vagina.

And you might even end up not being able to hold an erection because you aren't being TIGHTLY gripped.

Don't make sex out to be so complicated. It's two people with a physical attraction at the bare minimum.

If you read on here ALL the post about guy who can't keep it up for "normal" sex because they wank so much that they have desensitized their penis.

And if yo uare with a woman who CARES about you she can handle you not lasting long, specially being a virgin. As long as you know what to DO to PLEASE her (other than just pure insertion) you will do fine.

You are WAY over thinking.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2014):

Having sex with a piece of plastic is not going to help you to have sex with a live person. Work on your social skills, go to outings, find a good woman who you love and pursue a RELATIONSHIP, then the sex will eventually happen in a natural way. Don't put sex first. You're obsessing over this way too much and ignoring what really needs to be worked on.

Women don't want to have sex with a man who practices on weird devices.

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A male reader, Mark1978 United Kingdom +, writes (29 June 2014):

Mark1978 agony auntOp I would leave such things well alone! you really are over thinking this. Why add more layers of confusion and more things to obsess about?

I have not used the devices you describe, but I know someone who did. (in fact they had it in their desk draw at work on a day there was a desk security inspection! Thats another story!)

You don't need such a product as it wont be anywhere near the same as real life. You talk about strong pelvic muscles, but you are not a pregnant woman! Why do you need to even think about these things?

This guy you spoke to may last an hour with a device, but with a real woman, all bare flesh, sexy perfume and erotic noises will have him firing his guns a lot quicker than an hour.

OP if you want to loose your virginity you need to think much less about it. Spending so much time on forums, considering devices and worrying about the strength of you pelvic floor isn't doing you any good at all. Its just making sex seem a more "serious" or "big" thing than it actually is.

Mark

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