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Why does he want pictures of me if he isn't going to save them?

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Question - (29 June 2014) 14 Answers - (Newest, 1 July 2014)
A age 22-25, * writes:

My friend and i started out as just co-workers and then started talking more and eventually things led to where we started talking about him taking my virginity and he would ask me for private or "personal" pictures and I was hesitant at first because well I knew he had/still has a girlfriend and kids with her. I know it's wrong but I didn't care at the time because well I really liked him.

I eventually sent him the pictures he asked for, and then we had sex a few days before I moved out of state.

A few days before we had sex, he asked me for a full body picture (naked obviously) and well I sent him one. So anyway since we had sex, he's still asked for pictures and videos. And I've sent them, well he asked me for a full body picture again and I'm kind of wondering why and his response was "cuz" when I asked him why. I'm kind of shy about my body, I know that probably makes no sense since the videos and pictures I've sent but with full body pictures it shows all of me and with the pictures and videos well I just video or take a picture of one part.

my question is what could be the reason of why he wants a full body picture? I know he doesn't keep/save the videos or pictures because of his girlfriend. Why would someone want pictures or videos if you don't keep them?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (1 July 2014):

Honeypie agony auntMake your own account if you want advice FOR you. (or STATE in your post that you are NOT the owner of the account).

Using someone else account is a not a good idea, because people giving advice OFTEN check the account name to see past posts and history. So you are messing up further advice for your FRIEND and owner of the account and people will easily disregard you as a troll because things don't match up.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2014):

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First off, I am not rosalinda(I am a friend of hers) I wanted advice and i don't have an account so she just let me use hers, I thought I clickedit to where it wouldn't show her name but I guess I didn't. He told me once when I asked him why he wanted more pictures when ive already sent him some and he said he doesn't keep them so thats why I have just thought he doesn't keep them. He persuaded me into sending pictures and videos in November I believe, I felt uncomfortable with it but did it anyway but now I don't want to send any more pictures or videos because I feel bad for his girlfriend. I have been talking to this other guy who is single and I think something might happen there. I just wondered why that guy wanted full body pictures, I never really understood the videos or pictures because I never knew what he did with them or really why he wanted them.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 June 2014):

Honeypie agony auntAhhh summer break do bring out the trolls......

I hate wasting my time on trolls...

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (30 June 2014):

eyeswideopen agony auntThis op is all over the board, just look at her posts. Too trollish.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy + , writes (30 June 2014):

CindyCares agony aunt You lost your virginity to this guy ? .... That must have been a long time ago, since you wrote us a few times a good while ago , saying that you were 18 and had a 5 y.o. child.

And, he'd he be asking pics now .....

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A male reader, Mark1978 United Kingdom +, writes (30 June 2014):

Mark1978 agony auntWhy are you letting yourself provide wank fodder for a guy who has a partner and kids? What do you think you are going to get out of it except the fact he could use those pictures against you. You say you don't care if he sends your former boss the images, well you should! Why get yourself a reputation?

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia + , writes (30 June 2014):

Aunty BimBim agony auntWhat are you talking about him taking your virginity, dont you have some kids, including a set of twins?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 June 2014):

Honeypie agony auntSo you are messing around with a guy who has a GF?

Why?

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A female reader, Adeboyefa Nigeria +, writes (30 June 2014):

Adeboyefa agony auntWho told you he won't save them because he has a girlfriend? He won't save them on his phone but he can always upload them into an email account she doesn't know about. If things go wrong between you,he can always leak those pics. Stop being a fool.Do you want to feature in porn magazines without getting paid?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2014):

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I forgot to add too that I have asked him for pictures as well

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2014):

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Thank you for your advice and input, the only reason why I say he doesn't keep them is because he told me once that he doesn't keep them. He had also been sharing his phone with his girlfriend so I doubt that he really is saving them. I haven't worked with him in about 4 months or so, I quit so if he sends them to the boss I really don't care because well I don't work there anymore and I have never put my face with the pictures so there's no way that I can be identified in the pictures.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 June 2014):

Honeypie agony auntOf course he is keeping them, you don't know him well enough to do this if I have to be frank, he could UPLOAD them to just about ANY website and if you two fall out who KNOWS what can happen, like him mailing them to your boss or other co-workers.

You need to quit being THIS naive. Because, guess what? you would be the one to get hurt in all this.

Honestly though do you ASK for some pictures of him in return? Fair is fair.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2014):

If you must send him a full-body naked picture,make sure you crop off your head in the pix before sending it. If you break up tomorrow and he decides to leak the pics, nobody will be able to identify your face in them.

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A female reader, YoungButNotNaive South Africa +, writes (29 June 2014):

YoungButNotNaive agony auntOf course he's going to keep them. Just because he has a girlfriend doesn't mean he can't keep them. He will just hide them. The fact he has a girlfriend yet is asking for explicit pictures and videos of you should tell you something about his character.

Look, he is NOT going to fall for you. No matter how much you like him, he doesn't see you in the same way. He views you only in a sexual way. Even if he was willing to leave her for you, do you really want to be with someone you know is capable of cheating over and over and not feeling remorse? It wasn't like it was a one time thing that he never intends to do again. This type of person would cheat no matter who they are with. You would never be able to trust him.

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