A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:my boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now and we've been wanting to have sex, but don't know when the right time will come. But i'm afraid that after we have sex he'll leave me and won't love me anymore. Plus he acts diffrent around me, when we're in public half the time, and other places too. when he says, 'i love you', i feel like he does mean it. But not really. I don't know what to do. Please help Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, MrsTetzlaff +, writes (26 December 2010):
Okay, it's simple. Don't sleep with him yet. If you feel a different feeling from him when you are in public and when you are in private, then he is an asshole. I guarantee the only reason he is so different is because his only intention with you is to get his and he doesn't care about you getting yours. He is a rotten person and you need to leave him.
You are right, there are warning signs and you are smart because you caught them. EVERY SINGLE SIGN LIKE THIS IS A BAD SIGN AND YOU CAUGHT IT - Good for you!!
Now break up with his ass.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): Tell him this is what you're feeling.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): Pretty simple. If you have ANY doubt at all about him, don't do it. No trust = no pleasure. Believe me, if you don't trust him, your doubts will eat you up during sex and you won't be able to enjoy it.
You can still do other sexual things together, anything from a simple innocent lap dance to dry humping or mutual masturbation. I don't think it would be a good idea to go straight from no-sex to full intercourse. On the contrary, going slow is a win-win strategy! You keep him wanting more, and you buy time for the BOTH of you to discuss your intentions and feelings.
And if he doesn't see the point in going slow, then he's got it all wrong about sex.
...............................
|
