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writes:i was seeing this guy for 6 months and I'm crazy about him. he finished with me about a month ago but we kept on sleeping together. this is all over with now but because i was so angry and confused by his actions i got drunk and sent a lot of unforgivable texts. i have kept my distance for 1 week, no contact and its unlikely I'll ever bump into him and now i'm really missing him and writing on this so i don't text him or mail him. he did truly care for me i know that but my messages were nasty. i sent a text the day after saying i had no argument and that i didn't mean those harsh words.i have been getting on with things having fun etc but i cannot shake him from my head. any guys out there reading this what is he thinking will he contact me? or do i just forget?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): thank you for the responses. yes i was so and still am angry that he used me after dumping me and he really has broken my heart as we talked about us being a long term committment etc , but its along story and he finished it because he couldnt deal with my angry outbursts, so in a way this is all my fault i have a bad mouth always have but hes always know that. i do regret everthing i say and texting whilst drunk was my worst move but i do feel better because i apologised and have kept my distance but today for some reason this man is on my mind and i know its because we were quite good together and there will never be the usual opportunities for me to make him jealous or hear about what i'm up to, i guess i just want him in my life still. I'm going with if its meant to be its meant to be.
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reader, damluvaam  + ♥, writes (6 April 2009):
 "Angry and confused by his actions"? I'm assuming, breaking up and wanting to continue the sex?
I don't know what your nasty texts said, but I would imagine he's thinking you meant what you said. I know you can't shake him from your mind, but he broke up with you! Then wanted the "benefits" of still being with you. Why do women allow some men to do that to them? Doesn't make sense to me...AND after he broke your heart. So, you, I guess, put your foot down - which you should! - and he believes you meant it. I would.
Are you sure you're not feeling worse because, maybe, you lost your cool and, perhaps, didn't want to do that and wouldn't have if you had been sober?
In my mind, you actually did the right thing.
Denny
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reader, crazykit666 +, writes (6 April 2009):
I really can not say whether he'll be in touch. I was in EXACTLY the same situation until this evening (except me and the guy have been trying to be just-friends for the last month). I text him a couple of times since we split and he has been completely dismissive with me (just answering yes/no, or one sentence) In the end, I was completely distraught by his evasive behaviour. So tonight I phoned him. We had a long chat which turned into a big argument but I was glad that I voiced how I was feeling. We left the conversation on good terms, despite the fact I am very upset. I think the point I am trying to make here is that if you have some feelings building up inside, it is probably best that you phone him and talk to him directly about your feelings. Unlike text or phone, this way he can respond directly without sending a 'heat of the moment' text message (It is much easier to be excessively angry/abusive with someone over mail/text).Let me know how you get on x
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