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writes:i have been "seeing" (as i dont consider it dating)a married man for a while now.i live in jamaica and he lives in the england, i see him up to 4 times per year and even tho he is married we talk a lot on the phone when he is home.i go to school at nights and i would be home by 10pm local time (that would be after 3 a.m uk time), and he would wake up and call me just to make sure i am home safely. he does little things which makes me feel loved and appreciated,even though i know there is not a future for us. i love him but i am not in love with him. the problem i am having, however, is that he wants us to have a baby-even though he is still married to the wife and i dont want him to leave her for me as the same fate will reach me. i dont agree with the pregnancy thing and i have made that point clear to him. my reason for coming here for help is to hear from men, especially, what could make a married man want to have a child with his mistress. he already has 5 kids of his own and a grand child.he is 39.thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everybody. oh,actually he doesnt have kids with his wife- he got them before the marriage and we were not intimate before the marriage. we met after. honestly i am with him because he takes care of me financially and no i dont give him money or anything of that nature.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 He wants a kid with you for two reasons...
1-his ego
2-he wants you to be forced to be attached to him
That's my guess anyways...I assume that you are the "other woman" and that he and is wife are not in an honest open relationship?
One more thing...because you live in different countries...will be be exempt from supporting you and his kid?
-Frank
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): I'm not a man, but I can tell you that you don't want a kid who only sees his father four times a year. He wants a kid with you because he knows that at some point you will end things; if you have his kid, you will have to stay in this screwed up relationship with him. It's a control thing.
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