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Why was my best mate saying horrible stuff about me?

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Question - (23 December 2009) 8 Answers - (Newest, 23 December 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

A while ago I moved, so I didn't know anyone. Then my sort of mate seemed to help me a little so then we became best mates, or at least that's what she called it. I never trusted her because of how two faced she is. In the past she's slept with 4 of my boyfriends whilst I was with them and she stole numbers from my phone so that she could flirt with them more, she also nearly got me stabbed! I decided a couple of days ago that I give up, she's no mate of mine. I had no hard feelings, like if I saw her in the street I wouldn't be horrible etc.

Then, last night Gav (her recent ex) phoned me and was being really nice, and admitted he was trying to get in with me, I asked about my "ex mate" and he said that he dumped her for cheating on him with TWELVE men! (They were together for 3 days and she already did that. :/) So we got talking and he was asking me weird questions like "what size are you?" And I told him and he said "WTF, that's a lie, don't worry I'm not obsessed with size. Kim (ex best mate) told me that you were bigger than her (she's obese) and that you couldn't get into her clothes!" OMG! I'm half her size! She stretched MY clothes so I can't wear them any more! She also told him that I flirted with loads of guys and I never had my legs closed! AAAAAAAAAAAAND he said she had told a load of people that I didn't shave anywhere. Why the hell! This was when we were "mates" Why the hell would she say complete crap about me like that? :/

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A female reader, Love_is_all_youu_need United Kingdom +, writes (23 December 2009):

Love_is_all_youu_need agony auntGod, this girl has got serious issues.

I had a friend like this, and i ditched her about 5 years ago. she had the nerve to start off a pathetic rumour about me and somehow got everyone to believe it; which resulted in me being 'made fun of' for many months, until it was realised by others that she was nothing but a liar! From that day on, i've always hated her and we were never friends again. I got told by many friends that she was just jealous of me, i still get evil glares from her everytime she sees me (which is very rarely - thank god!).

My advice to you is to move on, don't let this so-called friend of yours drag you down because she sounds the type that will do anything to put you down in order to make her feel better about herself.

She's the one with the problem, not you. Get her out of your life, you'll never look back. All the best xxxx

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (23 December 2009):

Honeypie agony auntI would stay away from her and any guy she has been involved with, for the simple reason that they are not worth it in the long run.

She obviously have some self esteem issues and it was easier to make you "fatter" then her, because she is quite unhappy with herself, which also may be the reason she is being so sexual reckless.

Make your own friends. As for boyfriends. Well, if they have been with her they are not really looking for a girl friend I would think, they are looking for a quick roll in the hay. Don't be like her.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009):

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Thank you so much everyone that answered.

@ CaringGuy thanks for clearing that up, felt bad about it but I guess you're right. :]

xx

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (23 December 2009):

She took a several guys of yours while you were still with them. He's not with her, he dumped her, so it's not a problem.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009):

she is probs just jealous of you so the best thing you can do is make new friends that are proper friends to you and if just forget about her even if she comes grovelling to you coz she has no more friends and you were her only friend i am sure she will then realize that she has made a big mistake by being like that towards you, good luck. :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009):

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Do you think me getting with Gav* would be really bad? Worried I step over a line. Thank you for answering. :] xx

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (23 December 2009):

Because she wasn't your friend. She clearly has major issues, and was probably jealous of you. You will have a far better life away from her, so forget about her and move on.

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A male reader, collins27023 United Kingdom +, writes (23 December 2009):

collins27023 agony auntit looks like she is just using you for her sexual gain.

i recommend you talk to her.

i have been in a situation similar to this and in my situation it turns out the person wants to be popular and known.

she i think is not a good person and she wants people to stay away from you so she can have them to her self

i hoped i helped

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