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writes:About 20 days ago i started to chat to a male i met on a dating website. We exchanged numbers and spoke spoke for a couple od days. He told me not to go back onto the website till we met and both agreed to take our photos off the site. We continued to speak and arranged a meeting 3 days later. On the day of the meeting he cancelled saying he had work commitments. The next day we spoke and i went online to deactivate my email notifications on my online account and saw that he had reuploaded his photos. I asked him about it and he gave me some poor excuse but said he would cancel it, but i told him not to till we met. We met briefly the next day and in the short time we got on ok and he told me he wanted me. He has since tol me he has wanted me everyday for the next 25 days that he wants me. My work schudule is pretty tight and he complained that i was always busy and that he could never see me so i moved work around and freed up some time. However everytime I tell him i am free he doesnt respond. He then tells me that if we dont happen soon then we wont happen. Im confused with this guy my friends tell me he is taking me for a ride. Why say you want someone but then avoid seeing them. When i ask him what he means when he says I want you he says as in bf gf. I think im going crazy and must look like a crazy person to him as im so frustrated with the mixed messages. Please help
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (18 September 2012):
 I agree with all the other aunts.
I tried a dating site once and encountered several men who behaved like this.
He is a time waster and not worth pursuing.
Don't bother working him out, get your profile back up and find someone else who is serious about getting to know you properly.
good luck x
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (18 September 2012):
 Ignore the dude, put your picture back up and look for someone else.
And honestly, do remove yourself/picture til you have known/dated a guy for a good 6 months and you both know that the relationship is exclusive and you want to pursue it. Not after a couple of days of chatting.
And I agree, he wants you? For sex? Because it sure doesn't seem like it's to date.
He's frog.. toss him back in the pond and start over.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 September 2012):
 “he told me not to go back onto the website and we both agreed to take our photos off the site”
THAT alone makes me call BS… It’s way too soon to know that you are not going to be wanting to see other people…. Taking your photos down was premature… saying not to go back on the site… well that’s what he wants from YOU but I’m sure he was talking to you and trolling for other women at the same time…
Then he canceled your first meeting and uploaded new pictures… RED FLAG…
Then you met BRIEFLY the next day… and you got on “ok” and he said he wanted you. FOR WHAT? I mean it was a brief meeting… he wanted you for what a first date?
You rescheduled time for him and he can’t do the same for you… well then he’s toying with you.
Stop playing with him. IGNORE HIM. PUT YOUR Pictures and your dating profile back up and ignore him. Block him if you can…. Do not look for him… he’s out and about having fun and you should be too.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (18 September 2012):
 He is playing games with you, leading you on but without any intentions of ever fulfilling his promises. Chances are he is seeing lots of women from the dating site, messing you all around just because he can.
Unfortunately there are some men out there who like to play games and mess women around, and often with dating sites you meet lots of these types of men. There are lots of women available in a small space, they can contact lots of women at the same time and they can see lots of women at the same time without any of them knowing.
Drop this guy, write him off as a bad experience and move on. If he was truly interested then he would see you when you were free, simple as that. He is messing you around and if you let this carry on you are going to get hurt.
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