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writes:Why is it when you're not looking for someone, you find them?I had this guy. We have a rich history and have been building up to a relationship for the past 6 months. I love him so much, if not as my bf, as a friend. I think he's the most beautiful person in the world. I told my friends the first time i met him, I'm going to marry that man. It's 6 years later, and he still makes me feel like a giddy little teenager. So I'm kind of messed up. I'm hurting and I'm not healthy. I drink a lot. On one occasion i met this man. We kept in touch, but I didn't think anything of that. At that time, I was enamored with the first guy and having problems with an ex. To say the least, I was confused. A week ago, me and the second guy hung out. It ended up being an all day thing, which eventually turned into an all night thing. It caused such a problem that my sister and I aren't speaking. She moved out so now I'm here alone. Me and the second guy have spent every day together since the first time we hung out. I've only slept without him for one night. He's already hung out with my friends and I and I've hung out with his friends. The thing is, my heart is the first guys. It always was, and it always will be. I've made some stupid decisions and the result is where I'm at now. I've had unprotected sex with a guy I've known for a week and he spends every night with me, but every chance I get I speak to the first guy. he's even talking about visiting. Confused.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 February 2012):
 So your sister moved out over this? And you are carrying on having unprotected sex with a guy you've known essentially for a week. Are you drinking so much that you cannot make good choices?
Get yourself to an AA meeting ASAP. I am not joking. You are on the road to STDs, pregnancy and destroyed relationships with family and later on with friends. Your feelings, words and actions do not coincide.
Call a friend and tell her you need help and to get you to an AA meeting. Go tonight; they have them all over the place.
http://www.aa.org/
Take some positive steps to protect your health and future NOW. Off you go. Good luck.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 This is a saying usually to console a shy person who has been waiting for a long time but still single. After I read your story I figure that you have to be the right person to attract the right person. You don't love the second guy. Guys who can have sex without love are plentiful, maybe that gives you the impression that it is easy to find a guy. I don't know enough about the first guy to tell why he wants to visit. I don't know his intention.
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reader, Emily20  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 What i will tell you is a simple question,what do you want?who do you want?if you want these guy?ask yourself does he feel the same way for you?does he want to be with me?am i making the rite decision?you have to understand that you are the big picture here,your happiness is what you are looking. For u have to be very careful,love is total happiness,only when you are love back,you have to make these decision,is it the boy you just met,or the guy you have always known?is all about you gudluck
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