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writes:many years of being loving and loyal in a marriage, does it really matter? being disabled leaving me lacking in the intimacy department, so it is not as often as it use to be, i thought i was living a life of love,but now she says it is not enough. she knew before she married,why did she wait so long to say this? ten years plus. why is all the good not remembered, just my inadequacy? years of love, gone in months
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reader, rcn +, writes (12 May 2008):
 To her the inadequacy outweight the good. Emotions are like a bank account. Make deposits, and take withdraws. When more withdraws are made than deposits, you fall in the negative and your pareners brain beings to call it quits.
I know what you're saying. I lost someone because of my being disabled as well. I have narcolepsy. I take more naps than most without it. It can be hard, but in order to live I had to take time to figure out what my real limitations are.
I am a single parent. I remain single by choice. Part of that decision is to not have someone enter into my personal hell with me until I've figured out how to increase my abilities and the benefits I could offer someone as a partner.
When I lost someone, I didn't really know my disability or what affect it was really having on the relationship. By researching the disability, I found different coping methods I could of done which may have prevented our relationships destruction.
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