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writes:okay well there's this girl i work with that i really like. i flirt with her, and she's been flirting heavily towards me too. i always catch her staring at me, we're always touching each other, laughing at each other, tells me she "loves me"; all of these supposed signals, you know?well i finally got some time alone with her and told her how i felt, told her i liked her a lot and asked if she was spoken for, and she wasn't.. however, she wasn't looking for anyone, either. this confused the hell out of me. she doesn't flirt with anyone else at our job. and my co-workers pretty much knew she had a crush on me. when they asked her, she didn't respond to the question at all, which is another big signal i would think.so can someone explain to me what the hell is going on? for the next week or so i'm pretty much just going to ignore her, since most everyone told me to do so, and said they'd do the same to back me up.
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reader, chromevariant +, writes (6 February 2009):
chromevariant is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the answer.
by the way, i clicked "poor" as the rating of the answer. i have a habit of selecting/unselecting text when i read it and accidentally clicked it as i scrolled down. sorry :/
but yeah, your advice is basically what everyone else has told me (with the exception of my co-workers of course), and i'm gonna go for it. i never really liked the idea of ignoring her, rejecting me made me want her even more to be honest.
thanks again.
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reader, kliciouss +, writes (6 February 2009):
 this girl sounds just like me.you even said you really like her, why ignore her?she obviously likes you but doesn't wanna say anything. if she only flirts with you, then it can't be innocent flirting. she isn't looking for anyone because she wants to have fun and she also doesn't know if you're the right guy for her. shes probably waiting for you to make a bigger move. if you ignore her, she's gonna think you don't like her at all. guys tend to tell guys to do that. i really liked this guy but i wasn't really looking at all. he liked me a lot too. i gave him so many signals but then he started ignoring me. now i'm just kind of over it even though he's probably dying for me to talk to him again. don't ignore her. she might not be interested in you anymore. how about you give her mixed signals back. make her go crazy; you guys can battle. she will see that you have game. if it doesn't become anything in the end, at least you practiced your flirting skills :)
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