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Why does my wife come home wearing different colored panties? Is she fooling around?

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Question - (5 December 2016) 9 Answers - (Newest, 5 December 2016)
A male United States age 41-50, *oogie4 writes:

So I have a strange feeling that my wife may be fooling around. Whenever she goes by her GF place, she always comes home with different panties on. Am I wrong for having these thoughts that there could be something here?

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (5 December 2016):

CindyCares agony aunt That must be a troll question.Who's the man who checks

( and remembers ) what panties his wife wears in the morning , and checks again if they are the same at night ?

Not to mention that, if she was really fooling around, most probably she would have the common sense to take off her panties BEFORE to put them back nice and intact AFTER.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (5 December 2016):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntI think the main issue here is how you know what underwear she has on before and after going somewhere?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (5 December 2016):

Honeypie agony auntI agree with Auntie BimBim

WHO the hay! checks their spouse' panty color before they leave the house?

And have you considered that menopause, age and less strong muscles have made her urinary tract less strong - so a good laugh, cough or sneeze can leave a drop or two of pee coming out. So she might carry a spare with her in her purse and change them as/if needed. It's called urinary incontinence and is actually more common than people let on. Giving birth and menopause are the two biggest reasons for this. But being overweight or smoking can affect the urinary tract too.

She might not have told YOU because she is embarrassed that she at HER age pees herself.

There is NO reason to jump to the conclusion that she MUCH be cheating because she changes panties during the day.

Now that might BE her excuse - biology...

What is yours? That the first thought you have is to jump to the conclusion that she is cheating?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2016):

There could be a number of reasons why your wife changes her underwear regularly. I'm surprised I have to list them to a man in your age group.

Heat, menstruation, bladder weakness, yeast infection or just simply wanting to feel fresh. Women, particularly those of us in an older age group always carry extra pants.

If I was having an affair I'd do as little as possible to arouse suspicion and not change my underwear. There's no need to. I think your behaviour sounds controlling and you should have a lot more than that to go on before you think the worst.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2016):

trust your gut feeling. if you know she is changing panties while suppose to be going to a girlfriend's house that does seem to be a red flag to get your attention.

go drive by her girlfriends and see if she is there. may need to check up on her.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2016):

Yes Bim bim's right about regaining personal power stuff. Besides if she - God forbid! - is cheating, why should she change her underwear after?

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia +, writes (5 December 2016):

Aunty BimBim agony auntYou question intrigues me, how do you check what colour panties she is wearing when she leaves the house? Are you in the habit of watching her get dressed, if she is wearing pants do you ask her to drop her dacs before she leaves the house so you can check or do you ask her what colour she is wearing .... and then when she comes home do you go through the same process, only in reverse?

I wouldn't like my husband checking my panties each time I left the house, and maybe she doesn't like it either and her changing her undies before she comes home could be a way of regaining some personal power.

Before you worry about your wife's seemingly strange behaviour maybe you should take a good look at your own.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2016):

Either she is menstruating or cheating.

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A male reader, Roboaxe United States +, writes (5 December 2016):

Roboaxe agony auntThat's a definite red flag. Why would she need to change panties?

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