A
female
age
51-59,
*azzapants
writes:Why does my husband keep things from people and lie to make himself feel better? When we got married he told all his work mates we got married in Las Vegas, which was a complete lie.(we got married in our home town in a register office and then had a party in a local pub. He didn't invite any of his family or colleges as they thought we were abroad!)His family don't know to this day we were married. His boss even gave him money to spend in the casinos!I had to go along with it to save him embarrassment and lie to them as well, which i was very uncomfortable about. He has told loads of lies since then, too numerous to mention. Why does he feel the need to do this? Should i tell people the truth? Please help.ps. We have since split up.
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reader, sarah_s +, writes (9 April 2008):
 I think he just wants something he can't have as that's why some people lie to grab attention. Vegas - he exaggerated so he's living his thought in luxury. Why he keeps doing it he maybe feel he won't be caught in the act and I probably presume not much people but yourself know the truth about him.
You can tell people the truth but, don't open up too much about it. Best wishes. Sarah.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 People tell lies for a variety of reasons, peer pressure, to
be accepted in the group,self importance, cannot face the
truth, fear of rejections, saving face, etc.
Tell one lie, cover it with 100 lies and they will believe it as the truth.
Since you are separated, just reveal the truth sometimes and sometimes , just leave them alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Since you have split up.....then don't just tell people this
If someone ask you about Vegas...then tell the truth now, but don't just offer it without being ask. Your husband is similiar to thousands of men I have encountered over the years....including one of my brothers....every single female he has dated "is super rich"! While all these women are in fact wealthy....none are millionaires, they in fact "think" that he is super rich! (go figure).
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