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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Having a little fling/casual sex with a foreign guy from Germany and on our 3rd date/meeting where he's giving me a lift to his place, he tells me to keep his phone while he drives. He doesn't text and drive though. I just found it strange. I don't usually like other people handling my phone, even though I have nothing major to hide. What did he give me his phone? Aren't men especially sensitive about woman snooping?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 September 2014):
 your just fuck buddies... it doesn't matter to him what you know or think.... you are looking too deeply into this.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (4 September 2014):
Don’t look for problems that aren’t there. Not all men think women snoop, not all women do snoop, and not all men have something to hide. He’s obviously got nothing to hide, and presumably trusted you not to go snooping through his phone. And think about it: if he was giving you a lift, he’d be able to spot it quickly enough if you did start looking through it. I suspect this is more your curiosity than a concern for you, and I do understand where it comes from: we use our phones so much in this day and age they are pretty central to one’s life and identity. They reveal everything from your friendships to your internet habits, so it’s understandable that you’d want to keep them private. But I think this is as simple as a man who you’re seeing casually, having nothing to hide, and letting you hold his gadget whilst he drives the car. I doubt he even thought much about it and I don’t think you should either.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (4 September 2014):
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Not sure the question here.
He's not suspicious? Not acting shady? Not protecting his phone as if he's got something to hide?
Sometimes I give my phone to my fella, on the off chance that someone calls who I need to hear from, and because I'm driving I'm not able to answer the phone. Men that are not trustworthy will hide their phone because they have something to hide (and that is the opinion from a girl who is all about significant others not snooping). So he's got no ladies buzzing his cell while he's out with you - that seems like good news to me! I wouldn't worry.
What I see as the bigger issue is that you deem this as casual, and maybe you see his actions as indications of "look, I'm trustworthy, see my phone? I'm not treating this as a fling!".
Either way - if it is a super casual fling, or if you are concerned that maybe he is conducting flings beyond yours - I wouldn't worry about it.
Good luck!
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