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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Ok here goes, since i've been single i've only met men that just want sex. Now i have met a man younger than me that is a sweetheart. He is not afraid of his family and friends meeting me. He lives an hour away from me which is not bad. However, lately, if i text him and he doesn't text back, or i call him and he doesn't respond right away, i start to worry. He has done nothing to make me not trust him like most guys do like turn off his cell phone while with me but i think the problem is me. Please if you've gone thru something similar give me ur opinions, i dont want to mess up the relationship by pressuring him. Thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): i'm a girl and ive been there, many many times before. you think he wants a relationship and then he vanishes into thin air. there could be many possiblities, but it would most probably be that he's not that into you.
like i've told many girlfrends of mine, back off. leave him alone. men dont like to be pursued and they especially disapear at even a slight hint of desperation.
if he wants you, he will find you. you deserve better than silence. dont give him the time of day. ur so much more than what you give urself credit for. good luck!
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (9 May 2008):
 I kind of think you hit the nail on the head yourself here. Assuming that you are pressuring him, maybe the option of backing off some would help the situation. I know that from my past experience, there's something about being crowded that makes a guy want to back off... for every man, it's a bit different, but by and large, we tend to avoid commitment and long for that freedom to roam. And that's not to suggest he's on the look-out for somebody else at all (don't let me put that in your mind).
So, the safe thing to do might be to back down on the intensity a little bit. Give him a little space to miss your company.
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