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writes:My husband continues to interact with his ex's children, even although the children are not his! I've asked him numerous times if he let go of the ex or still has feelings. Why do you think he continues to spend time with them although he knows it bothers me?
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reader, 50 n Fabulous +, writes (9 March 2013):
50 n Fabulous is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFYI he was never a step father to them! She gave birth after they broke up 19-20 yrs ago
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (9 March 2013):
 Cripes..... he ACTS LIKE a bona-fide "step father" and you want to begrudge him this????????
HOW long was he "stepDad" to them????? Are they close? Is the ex- inticately interwoved in HIS dealings with HER kids????
How many men SPAWN THEIR OWN KIDS then shirk their "fatherly" duties????? ..... whilest YOUR MAN is stepping up to his, even tho' he may have no such obligation.
Please take a moment to consider if you ought to give your man a ribbon for his activities, instead of castigating him for them (activities)....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2013): I wouldn't worry about this, you need to remember that he left his ex and chose to start a relationship with you for a reason.
However his ex;s kids probably had quite an attachement to him, and while grown ups have to just accept that a relationship is over, get over it, it's unfair and can be damaging for children to accept this in the same way,
If anything I think this shows he's just a caring guy who has a sense of responsibility
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2013): You are not alone. I know at least 2 women whose husbands see their ex wifes kids, and still contribute financially. These guys both told me that they participated in rearing the kids and bonded with them. Just because they divorced their moms they didn't lose the love for the kids. Don't feel threatened by this relationship - unless you have proof that he wants to reattach to his ex, you are fine.
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