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writes:i need help. im insecure and need advice on geting over it. i grew up being singled out by woman. i was called ugly laughed at and picked on by woman it diddnt matter who. its caused me to have low self esteem. ive tried asking woman out but ive been used so much. sometimes they just laugh and walk away. dosent matter who it is. why do woman treat me this way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): Maybe your approach isnt good. I dont know since you did not write anything else. Maybe try being friends first with a woman. Coming on too strong might not be the best approach for you. Take your time. A good woman will appear. :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 April 2013):
 "why do women treat me this way"
the key to figuring this out is what is the ONE constant in all the scenarios where you get mistreated?
The answer is YOU are the one constant.
This means that the reason it happens is because of how you present yourself, how you feel about yourself and what you expect to happen.
you say you grew up being singled out by women and called ugly.I'm betting that one or two bratty young teen girls were rude to you and because you liked them it's colored your perceptions of women in general and life.
the key to being attractive is self-esteem and confidence. The truth is most of us are unattractive to someone and beautiful to someone else. The way to find someone who loves us for us and who wants us for ourselves is to love ourselves first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2013): Why would you allow a woman to bully you basically? How are you approaching these women? You must have learned by now that other than not being Fred Astaire, you are doing something wrong no? I don't care if you are not good looking or not. But any man worth his weight in salt who has high self esteem and not afraid to engage people very rarely has these kind of issues. You know who the trouble making bitches are by now so avoid them because you know what you are going to get from them. I believe any man who is confident, whether he looks like Ryan Gosling or not, will command respect from women and men. Good-luck..
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reader, CMMP +, writes (26 April 2013):
Sometimes people indirectly ask to be treated a certain way. For example, a young boy whose dad is mean to him, which causes him to act out and "be a brat", so people aren't very nice to him because he's a brat.
You are insecure and have low self esteem. People like you can sometimes feel like punching bags, partially because people that can be mean will often be mean to people like you, but more than that, you are a punching bag because of your mental state. You feel like women treat you bad because you look for it, and because you warp what people say to make it seem negative.
The bottom line is that you don't have some kind of bullseye on you that makes women be mean to you.
In order to start seeing reality a little less warped I think you need to start therapy. Everyone deserves to live a happy life, and that's the best way for you to start being happy.
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