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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating this guy for 6 weeks.I just wondered if the way I have been feeling is normal?I am so, so into this guy. It feels a little more than lust, but not love. That crazy, can't stop looking at him, can't stop thinking about him feeling. I'm not naive enough to believe it is love so soon, or that he is definately The One, but I can definately see a future with him, he is someone I would like to have a long term relationship with.But sometimes, when we argue, I just feel like walking away. It's such a stark contrast to how I feel when I am with him and happy. I do think we argue at times because we spend alot of time together. I know you need to have time to miss someone, but you also must know what it's like when you can't bear to be apart :o)I wonder if I feel the way I do when we argue because that is the way my ex was to me. We were only together a year, but everytime we argued his solution was to walk away from the relationship and leave me to chase after him to rectify the problem. He was very insecure. And now I worry that he has passed that insecurity onto me - I don't want to run away all the time.Maybe I'm just scared of being hurt again. I never thought I was a quitter.It's reassuring, however, to see that this guy wants to work at it, he won't let me walk away without a fight on his behalf - maybe I am just needing the feeling of stability and security, and this is my way of getting it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): My internet is about to die lol so all I have time to say is it's totally natural to feel like walking away when you guys argue - I'm like that too. I prefer to just walk away and sort it all out later when I've calmed down.
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