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writes:So go figure this one out...I was with my ex boyfriend for a year. We lived together (from 4 months on). He dumped me just after Christmas. I moved out within the week.He'd spent almost £800 on presents for me for Christmas. Then he dumps me. The thing is, he was much more into me that I was into him. I tried, but the passion and lust/love just wasn't there from my side - but he said he was very madly in love with me, and wanted to marry me.So it's been a couple of months since we split. We haven't been in touch apart from speaking once to sort something out with the house we shared (we rented, he stayed on in the house). He sees my sister out and about, and grills her about me - what have I been doing, where am I living, AM I SEEING ANYONE? Says how great it was to hear my voice on the phone when I called about the house.What is that all about??Is he just being nosy? Is he regretting the split? Why ask my sister all this stuff about me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just almost wish I didn't know, I feel like it;s messed with my head. I know he's been hanging out with his ex alot, who caused alot of hassle in our relationship because I had a hunch they still had feelings for each other, and I feel like he has proved me right. I don't want him back but like I said, he's got into my head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): You say he was more passionately into you than you were to him. So he will be missing you. Asking your sister about you sounds like a perfectly harmless way of checking you are alright, and making him feel like he hasn't lost all contact, which he doesn't want to do, because he still cares. Why not? He is sending messages, you are right. You've obviously behaved honourably and you don't need to owe him anything, so I think the question is, what do you feel? Are you regretting the split? Do you miss him? Or have you moved on?
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