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Why do I feel jealous of his friends?

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Question - (25 September 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 26 September 2009)
A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Ok, today my boyfriend is going to hang out with some old friends, and I feel uneasy about this and jealous. I know I shouldn't, especially since it will probably be just the three of them. One of this guys lives in town, and they don't see each other too often due to schedules. The other one lives out of town and is coming home for the weekend.

The thing is, these guys were at one point of his life like his brothers. So he lived ALL his crazy, wild teenage experiences with them. You see, they're the ones with whom he used to party hard from 11 pm. to 7 am, getting drunk, smoking pot, checking out and trying to 'score' with chicks, going to strip clubs, sharing porn, etc. Doing all the things that guys just love doing and that a girlfriend can't give him. In the beginning ouf our relationship I didn't feel jealous about them or anything, but now I do.

Maybe it's because he's told me gradually about all the things they did, and because I don't have a fun past of my own (me and my friends were good girls because we HAD to be, due to our parents being control freaks). Or maybe because I never had a boyfriend before, and he had this girlfriend. And they all knew her and liked her. He even lost his virginity to her when he went camping to the beach with her and them. And the few times we've all been together, they reminisce about those times, even though they don't talk about her. What pisses me off the most, is that his ex cheated on him with one of those friends, and he forgave him... knowing that he still hangs out with him even after that drives me nut and I don't like that friend, even though it's stupid I know.

I just feel uneasy. I don't know why. I feel like he'll never have as much with me as he has with them, and because I never had that kind of fun, and never will because it'd be inappropriate being with him and since I'm an adult now, and it'd be silly if I did.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009):

dont be. my buddys wife hardly lets me talk to him. hopefully you are not like her

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