A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have been in a relationship with a younger guy for over two years now but compared to other men I have had relationships with he just doesnt make me feel as sexy as I would like to feel or we dont make love often enough, considering he is 15 years younger than me. I know my friends think that I must be with him for sex but they couldnt be more far from the truth. I take good care of myself and try to be as sexy as I can with him but he doesnt always want to respond. We get on very well together and have quite a lot of common interests but when it comes to bed time he just wants to sleep. He does suffer from retarded ejaculation and I am always patient with him and try not to make him feel awkward about this and have even suggested we go to the doctor together to see what they can do but being a man he wont consider this. We have just had a week away together which was great and we were both very relaxed but we only made love twice and only on one occasion could he ejaculate. I have asked him if he has lost interest in me but he says that he loves me and does find me attractive but it is just how he is. I wonder whether to give up on him and find someone to regain the spark in my life or soldier on in the hope that he things may get better.I might like to add that my ex husband was a similar character and was emotionally cold and also wasnt interested in sex and I took 20 years to divorce him then along comes a similar guy so why do I seem to attract the same type.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (3 October 2007):
Your problem is you pick guys who are to slow to express their sex interest in you and when you find a guy with a low sex drive you stick with him. Move on and make different selections.
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (3 October 2007):
 Hi! You open by saying that your current man does not make you feel as sexy as other men in your past have. You closed with inferring that you always attract the same type because of the one thing that two men have in common (lower libido than you). Two statements that don't belong in the same post. So, think to yourself, "When I did feel sexier, who was I with? What characteristics did those men have in common?" I know you can't step into the same river twice, we're all changing and growing, etc, but maybe there would be a clue there. Regarding your current man, from all the info you gave, it sounds like he's giving what he has, but you want more. I can't criticize that, but the solution may come down to (1)accepting it or (2) moving on. After all, the odds are, one partner is always going to want more than the other...so only you can decide if it's worth the gamble to trade in what you know for the unknown. I hope this all turns out well for both of you.
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