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writes:Basicly I dont know why Im still upset about it. well this guy i was with, we were constantly on and off he had a foul temper, he kept telling me over and over "I want you" and I kept giving him Achance and I dont even know what way it was suppossed to mean. buti really fell for the guy and two weeks ago, he told me he got his friend pregnant when we were not together for one day! Thyen he kept running back to me. I dont think he expected me to be angry or upset. I had fallen for him. we didnt have a proper date, we didnt meet each9oters parets. why do I feel this way??? then a few days later or shouting and crying to him on the phone, I told him to delete all the evidence of my existannce off his phone. the he said "kl then stop rining and texting me" Last night, I dont know why Id done it but i Texted him again "I forgive you." I have no idea why i did it! please help me!!! I dont know whats happend to me.
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (17 April 2011):
 This sounds like a proper mess to be honest. Why are you going back? Will I think the answer simply this - you have not resolved all the issues that arose in this relationship in your own head. Since he had a foul temper and obviously made you feel like rubbish there may also be an element of 'moth to the flame syndrome'. Having said that you need to resolve these issues and write this one off because its doing you no good. How do you do this? Well i'd recommenced some form of counselling but not professional. What you really need right now is to sit down with a trusted friend who you can be confident will listen and support you, for however long it takes, and sit down and go through the whole thing, everything that happened in this relationship from day 1 and how they made you feel. This will help you come to terms with this relationship and the damage it has done and move on. Good luck and take care.
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reader, macdubh712  +, writes (17 April 2011):
Maybe you don't believe in yourself? You say this guy is mean; do you really want to be with someone like this? If he is mean and treating you bad he does not deserve you. I can probably guess that if he is mean he has probaby been doing and saying things that have slowly and methodically torn down your self-esteem. For instance, he might try to make you dress conservatively or he might have told you that something doesn't look good on you when you know it does. Have you ever told him you wanted to do something to have him tell you that he didn't think you could do it?
I'm only guessing here and tossing out things. My point is, be honest with yourself and decide how YOU view yourself. If you don't really have a high opinion of yourself that is probably related to why you told him you forgive him when you shouldn't have. Perhaps you're afraid of being alone? Regardless of the reason you can't allow worthless guys to walk all over you. You have to love and respect yourself; then you can demand it from other people. If he got his friend pregnant after only one day of breaking up with you then I would bet my money that he was seeing her while you two were together. This guy is worthless; you know you shouldn't have sent that text, just like you know you should not even give this a**hole the time of day.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (17 April 2011):
you need to get a grip and pull yourself together.
you know this guy aint good for you, and when you tell him to delete all evidence of existence of his phone, you need to do the same about him on your phone.
cutting off all contact and moving forward keeping yourself busy with other things is the only way forward.
otherwise, as long as he knows you have feelings for him and there are ways of contact between you, he'll keep messing with you and you'll keep taking it.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 Send one last text - 'IGNORE MY LAST TEXT. GOODBYE FOREVER'. You are just young caught up in the drama. It never was a healthy relationship. You should be having fun, not getting mixed-up in a soap opera. Start looking for the next one! Preferably one without a temper. Good luck.
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