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writes:Colleague at work- who we've been up and down for a year . Recently he is back to flirtign and we get on like a house on fire. I have tried to move on which he knows about!! He over hears me talking to a friend saying how i still like this man etc. friends advice is ask him out for a drink. He then gives me a strict look and doesn't even say bye to me!! That night i send him a text (we haven't texted nearly half a year!).But we get along brilliant face to face. So i text him along the lines of a few of our friends are going to go for a drink, would he like to come and i will buy him a birthday pint. He didn't reply this was 24 hours ago and yes he is alive, has checked his phone etc. He didn't even reply to say no. I feel confused as face to face flirty and this was me making a move. But no response, not even a no but re-arrange it etc. :( help please?Now i will see him friday, how do i play it? i am dreading it. and deep down i am hurting alot because i finally made the move and for what? no response.
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reader, SeaGreen  +, writes (9 April 2014):
 It really does seem like you are wasting your precious time with him. Hot and cold, flirts and ignores....he doesn't sound worth it. Perhaps he likes games or just enjoys flirting with any female.
Regardless the best way to move on is to stop giving yourself hope. Accept that whatever could have happen never will. Take one day at a time, treat yourself, and keep busy.
When you see him at work act neutral. Try not to dwell on him and in time you will feel better.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (9 April 2014):
 I would play it exactly as he has chosen to respond. With no response.
Look, you made the move, you tried, you gave it a shot, it didn't work, now you accept that it isn't going to happen the way you hoped and you do the very boring thing called 'moving on.'
Don't bother flirting any more, it's a waste of your time and just getting your hopes up. Is he married, by any chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2014): You're not getting it. He's just not into you. You offered to take him out for drinks for his birthday, and he doesn't bother to confirm that he'll even show.
Don't set your heart on seeing him. He may have other plans and he's too much of a jerk to even acknowledge your invitation to have a drink for his birthday.
You're far too much into this guy, that you don't notice when he's being an ass-hat.
You're caught-up in how much you like him, and ignoring the fact that has allowed a day to go by, and didn't confirm if he wants to take you up on your offer.
Please act more grown-up, and ditch this guy.
He has to pretend as though he likes you face to face; because he's on the spot. You're around your friends and in public. He has no choice; but be nice to you. So not to look like a dick. Then he leaves without a word. That was totally rude.
You really should give up on this guy. If he's as interested as you think, why wouldn't he answer your text or call you?
I don't mean to hurt your feelings, and I hope he doesn't either.
Send him a text and call it off. Save yourself the embarrassment, and hurt feelings. Move on and stop chasing after that jerk. If he shows up, you have no obligation to offer the drink. He didn't answer, and you withdrew the offer.
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