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writes:ok so my parents went away for the weekend and my boyfriend was going to stay over without my parents knowing, anyway i asked my best friend to stay over as well but when my boyfriend came round and she was here he got all moody. then when i told him she was staying over as well he got really angry about it i asked him why and he said i just want to be alone with you? he wanted me to get her to leave but i didn't want to be rude to her. should i have asked her to go home? so why's did he get so moody and angry about it? did i do something wrong?
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reader, rivi  +, writes (21 December 2010):
Yes you did do something wrong - you allowed him to expect it would be just the two of you in the house - no parents for a whole weekend...... obviously he got his expectations aroused that pants off activities were in view...... then you introduced a total barrier to that happening.
If you don't want sex with him fair enough that's your choice...... but then don't give off signals that it's about to happen.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 December 2010):
 You should have told him that she was coming too... He clearly thought that you and him would be alone and was looking forward to spending time alone with you! Im not suggesting he had suspicious thoughts at all, I think he merely thought it'd just be him and you (as you didn't tell him otherwise) and he got surprised by your friend being there as well. He got disappointed.
I don't think you should have sent your friend home, that would have been silly. But you most definitely should have told your boyfriend about her coming over before he came! So he could have been aware of it... Maybe he was planning on being romantic and cuddle up with you while watching a movie and just be silly with you. Now he couldn't because you brought someone else along. It was a bummer.
Apologize, and make sure you include him in the full plan next time, don't lead him on to believe it will just be him and you when it wont!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): You didn't do anything wrong, but for future reference just have a night to yourselves. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): From a guys percpective I can see why he would be mad, i love having som etime alone with my girlfriend and I would be annoyed if my girlfriend brought along her bestfriend without warning me but i dont think he should have got mad and your right not to have asked your friend to leave. Don't worry about it he won't be mad for long, I'd say he was just looking forward to some quality time with ya and i don't mean sex lol. Next time tell him your inviting your friend :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010): Sounds like he just wanted you alone so the pair of you could have sex, or something? Or in nicer terms, just wanted to spend some alone time with you as it doesn't seem like it comes round very often.
You did nothing wrong and no, you shouldn't of asked her to leave as it's your best friend and it WOULD have been rude. Does he get on with your friend?
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reader, Blod +, writes (21 December 2010):
 It sounds like he really wanted it to be just the two of you and was really looking forward to spending some time alone with you. You didn't do anything wrong. You weren't to know how he felt.
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