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Why couldn't he perform?

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Question - (25 March 2014) 3 Answers - (Newest, 26 March 2014)
A age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I lost my virginity tonight, it wasn't what I thought it'd be like, the guy was drunk. We did it for a little bit and then he started talking just about random stuff and we were just laying there not doing anything. He started falling asleep. When i got him to wake up he took a shower because I was going to give him oral again because he went soft and he said in the shower he tried to get it up again and he couldn't. He ended up leaving because he was so drunk.

Was it me why he went soft and couldn't get it up again?

Also we didn't use a condom or any protection, he didn't cum or anything, I'm not so sure that was a good idea though to not use protection.

My main question is was it me why he went soft and couldn't get it up again?

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A female reader, Janeycakes United States +, writes (26 March 2014):

yes you should be lucky that he didnt get it up that was a blessing in disguise! you dont want to lose your virginity to a guy who is drunk and wont remember you the next day! Come on girl you can do better than that! you're only young so enjoy yourself plenty of time for sex for years and years so no pressure. Wait for at LEAST a half decent guy to come along who will treat you nicely for your first time. Doesnt sound like you had proper sex anyway so just forget this one and make sure the next one is awesome! ;-) and NO its not your fault at all, the guy was drunk it happens a lot to guys its pathetic nothing to do with you! i know plenty of girlfriends that it happened to with drunk guys so its fine.

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A female reader, Aunty Babbit United Kingdom +, writes (26 March 2014):

Aunty Babbit agony auntHoneypie is so right, just because he didn't ejaculate in you does not mean you're protected from STD's or pregnancy.

You must contact your GP or local STD clinic and get advice as soon as they're open.

She's also right in saying that the reason he couldn't get it up was because he was too drunk, you my dear, have experienced what is called "brewer's droop"

I'm also concerned that you should choose to lose your virginity to a guy who is so drunk he can't get it up and keep it up and pay attention to your needs.

Please do take care ABx

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (25 March 2014):

Honeypie agony auntBecause he was drunk.

Why on Earth would to have sex with some drunk dude your first time?

And it doesn't matter if he went soft, you DO know that there CAN be sperm in the pre-cum and you CAN get pregnant, but that aside STD's - GIRL. DO NOT have unprotected sex.

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