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*oxy09
writes:The reason for being here is that... i feel like i cannot forget my ex long distance lover... a have a new partner now, long story, i comitted not to be alone and wanting to kill the memory of my ex... have been through all stages of emotions, and every time i try to love in full, his memory haunts me livelier than ever... we text every now and then, but he does not disclose anything about his relationship status, last time he said he was single and studing medical school and he recently called me to say goodnight and wanted to be my friend and dissapeared again... we broke up because of the distance... he did... we had so much in common and we promised to see each other again... its been 18 month and i know everyone tells me to forget him it will help just to see him and give him a hug... i know he would too. He agreed we met in a different life... I know you may tell me to love someone closer, i tried, he is finishing school in december, but i end up thinking about him. Why can I not forget him and why do I want to see him again even though the relationship did hurt me so much?
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 Was the relationship abusive or just the END made you hurt allot?Recently I went through the same thing and...I dont want to sugar coat this for you.You would never be able to kill the memory AND NEVER be able to do it inside a relationship ! You have to work this out even if it takes 2 years to properly get over someone before you go into another relationship otherwise what youre explaining will happen.BUT please take note that this is only for serious long term relationships.
Im not saying I know everything but its just experience.
A while ago I read somewhere on DearCupid about a woman who was married for 17 years and started obsessing about her first love!
I dont think theres a cure and also if your relationship wasnt all bad and abusive and stuff why did you leave him?
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