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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (13 September 2006):
 Cos they suck :-P (sorry, everyone's already said the good stuff!)
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reader, Yos  +, writes (13 September 2006):
 There are many reasons why guys like to date virgins ('date' really is the wrong word btw). Men generally like to date sexually experienced women but marry virgins. But there are a few reasons why men don't want to 'date' a virgin...
- To have sex with a virgin is a big deal. That's a lot of pressure, not sexually, but more in terms of your relationship being meaningful. It's a big responsibility. You feel the pressure of making that persons first time something special and worthwhile. That's a lot to live up to. It's a very meaningful act, and it's easy to doubt whether you are worthy.
- It implies commitment. Men, especially young men, struggle with commitment. It's much easier to have sex with a woman who is not a virgin and then not call her, than to have sex with a virgin and do so. I guess what I mean is that it forces men to really care. That's not an easy thing for a young man to do. It's not any easy thing for anyone to do.
All I can recommend is to not worry about being a virgin. Everyone I know who has had lots of sex doesn't feel they've gained anything by doing so. Waiting for the time when it really feels right is the best thing to do. Afterward you'll be glad you did, and its something that stays with you the rest of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2006): ANYWAYS... To answer your question... [wink] I wouldn't go after a virgin because A) I wouldn't want to end up breaking up with her for any reason and having her heart-break over losing her virginity to me, B) I don't like the look on a virgin's face when I penetrate her for the first time - they look, oops, I mean, she looked quite uncomfortable, made me wanted to stop, C) because I already have a sexual past and knowing my own personality stuffs, I would rather she be with someone who isn't so 'naughty' as I - unless of course, I found to have fallen in love with her and have considered her for long term growth, then yes, I guess I should to show...
Yeah, and there you have it. 8]
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2006): Speaking as a guy who is 27 and still a virgin, I have to say that I would prefer if my girlfriend was as well. That way we could explore the experience together and take things at a more relaxed pace. Or, as is the reason why I still am, wait until the right moment. If I were not a virgin, I would probably say that having a girlfriend who was a virgin would be a bonus for a number of reasons: 1) she is uncharted territory and it would be fun to be the experienced one, 2) you wouldn't get the feeling she'd been "around the houses" and 3) if they were wiling to lose their virginity to you, then that is something extremely special - a priceless gift. I don't think most men would be afraid to date virgins, unless those men were immature and were just intent on some fun. In which case they are not worth it! Alternatively, it may be that they do not want to hurt you and do not feel that they are worth taking from you, the one thing that is in short supply in this world.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 September 2006):
 Whose Afraid of Virgin Wolfe? Sorry couldn't help it...
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reader, Lenaosa +, writes (12 September 2006):
well a lot of guys i know love girls who are untouched-vigins. . .its actually an attraction to many. . . .but maybe they are afraid of virgins being too clingy after sex. . .or more easily hurt as they still have their uhm, innocence, as per say. . .
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (12 September 2006):
 I never met a virgin yet I didn't love . . . LOL.
That's figuratively speaking. LOL.
Some guys like girls they know they can score with. If they know you're an iceberg, they tend to shy away. . . and wait for the big thaw. LOL.
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reader, james1980 +, writes (12 September 2006):
Who said they were? Most blokes would prefere a virgin to a bicycle..
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reader, -ask me evry thing- +, writes (12 September 2006):
 hi im an agony aunt on here my name is beccie and i think the reason guys propably afraid to date vergins is well they havent had sex before and think they have no experience and they could be boring or un-sexy. if u are a virgin i think you should prove theses men wrong show them vergins can have a good time and are great fun like anyone else. hope it helps -ask me anything- beccie x
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reader, rachyg +, writes (12 September 2006):
 most lads that ive met perfer the girls to be virgins because it means there the ones who youve been with first and means they mean somthing to you. but i think maybe some guys are scared because they dont want to be the one 2 to a girls virginity and hurt them or maybe they dont want a realationship so feel they you should wait some lads dont care though and do it anwyay.
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