A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidI am out of a long relationship, love was dead long back between us, he abused me emotionally for so long, I lost what I felt for him and it was a mutual breakup.I found a guy in dating site, he likes 2 hrs drive from me, he looked decent and has a good job. We are talking for past few days had even a video chat. He looked clean and nice and he said he is attracted to me physically and I liked him too physically. We talked till 3 am for couple of days, even planned to meet during new year. So everything is going good but I get anxious when I don't get a reply text from him and when he sees my text and didn't reply back. I definitely know i haven't really emotionally connected to him yet, we just Hv an initial spark. But y should I get anxious, and y do I have to feel bad if doesn't reply back. I don't like the way I behave and it's like I'm keep on chedking my phone for his text, which makes me annoyed and I don't like it but I can't stop myself doing itI think it's not exactly him, I would have done this even if someone else is his place, so please help me to understand my self. Why am I so desperate, I know I look good and decent and attractive and I have a good job and nice salary but still I do this stupid things. Pls help me
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 December 2015):
 You might no that you are a good catch but if your ex emotionally damaged you then that does not go away. I guess you need to feel needed with a guy, maybe you have lost trust in men at the minute.
I feel that instead of you rushing in to another relationship what you need to do is to go out and enjoy your life, build up your self esteem again, be around people who make you feel good about yourself, just give yourself time to heal.
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