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*unny66666
writes:Can someone give me an advice on what to do? I have met this man in 1999; in 2001 I gave birth to his child a baby boy. I always loved him and I still have feelings for this man. I love him so much and never stop thinking about him, it has been so many years and I never moved on with my life, I tried but he keeps coming back in to my life, sure we do share I child together. He is with another woman and has 2 kids with her too. He tells me that he thinks about me, he misses me a lot but it’s complicated at the moment, he has the business and assets under her name to avoid paying child support and Divorce settlement for his first wife. He is with her now but still sleeps with me too. We have good friendship and always get along, we are compatible in the bedroom and we like each other and miss each other and spend quality time together I guess???? However, I want him for myself and to be with him, he always tells me the same story I am sick of it???? Before you give any advice I want you to know:1 this man was married before 15 years divorce and has 2 kids. 2 after the divorce I come aloe have a 1 child with him. 3 he is with a another women now and has 2 kids with her to. I am the only one who he thinks more and never ending relationship for 9 years, always been in touch and always make love. He is not happy at home with this woman, she is not what he wants, I am constantly asking him why are you staying with her if she is not what you want?He tells me that's his destiny I believe in destiny but it’s what you make it to be. What do you think? Do I have a chance with this man or not??????
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): i think you are enabling this guy to have his cake and eat it too . The way he is behaving is completely unacceptable and you seem to be encouraging him.you need to have well defined standards of what you put up with and the kind of treatment you will and will not tolerate.you need to work on developing yourself esteem,if you had more respect for yourself you wouldnt be putting up with this .sorry if that sounds harsh but you deserve alot morPr
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reader, crimson_kiss  +, writes (3 April 2009):
 Why settle for being second? NO WAY! Walk now or you will continue to hurt more and more and he KNOWS he can do that to you because you are letting him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): I think he wants to get it all and not have the responsability of being committed to one woman... he is playing you!! If he does not want to be with her he would not go home and stay with you!!! Open your eyes.. just like he tells you that he probably tells the same thing to other woman.. I'm not in your situation so I cannot tell you for sure but there is something really fishy about it all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): Sorry but this man is a whole lot of pain for nothing. He is getting his cake and eating it. Sweetie, you need to move on cos all he is going to do is hurt you more. He is a liar and a cheat and you need to face up to that fact!!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 April 2009):
 Sorry but he hardly seems like much of a prize to me. Why on earth does he keep having kids but feels he doesn't have to pay for them? I think you deserve better than just 2nd best don't you? And make sure he gives you child support.
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