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writes:ok so me and my boyfriend had sex and right after he came he was pulling out and the condom was still inside me. i freaked out and pulled it out. i was so freaked out so i took a bath and cleaned my self out. im so freaking scared. i don't have to worry about getting a std becuase i am my boy friends first and i have never gotten one from any other partners i have had. but i was going to buy 2 pregnancy tests in 2 weeks then another 2 tests in 4 weeks. i hope im not pregnet im only 15 almost 16 and i dont want to screw up my life just yet.if you have any advice please tell me!
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reader, duhmaris +, writes (28 June 2010):
You need to go to the clinic whether you are or not. They can tell you the honest truth while they are checking your junk. You may need to wait a couple of days before though. Doctors keep things like that confidential anywho, so telling them every detail is a must. Go to the clinic if you want to get regular or find out if you are preggo.
Sometimes, it takes years before a hormone kicks in, but you can never play it too safe.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 June 2010):
 To add to my last answer, I'm not the one who is freaking scared or whose future will be forever altered by an unplanned pregnancy. I have been in your shoes, when I was much much younger. You either wake up and get smart, or you keep reacting to the situation you put yourself in.
You have an irregular period. You haven't had one for six months. What if you are already pregnant and just didn't take the test right?
You say don't want to be pregnant at 15, but it's not clear to me that you are doing the things that will keep you from becoming pregnant. You are freaked out that you might get pregnant from this mishandled condom incident. There is emergency contraception out there that could keep you from getting pregnant. But you are willing to wait a month for a period you haven't had in 6 months. What if you don't get it then? Will you wait another month or two or three? When does the denial end?
You need to be seen by a medical professional. You are unfortunately demonstrating why it is that teens aren't exactly considered mature enough to handle sex.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 June 2010):
You could go to the clinic now, and take emergency contraception to make sure you are NOT pregnant. Seems to me sooner is better than later. It's not my body and future, though, it's yours. Why wouldn't you take the best care of it you can?
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reader, duhmaris +, writes (28 June 2010):
The worst that could happen is you get pregnant and your parents find out. If this guys isn't willing to wait for you to be ready, he isn't worth your time. If you can't trust him to want to take care of a baby, he isn't worth your time. Talk to your parents. They really do want what is best for you. You are way too young to have to deal with this alone and I am positive home boy won't be of any help. He can't relate to any of the consequences YOU have to face.
Whether you are stressed or not, not have a perios for 6 months is a slightly serious issue. Maybe it's time for a visit to a GYN. Since you are sexually active, you need to make sure everything is still good down there. Talk to mom. Tell her to take you to a GYN.
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reader, angelwings7 +, writes (28 June 2010):
angelwings7 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionya was regular when i first started when i was 12 then after a few months it started getting eregular and from hen on its been like that. the longest i havnt had it was 4 months and that was like 2 years ago so ya this is the longest i have gone with out one. im going to go to the clinick after i find out if i am or not
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 June 2010):
You haven't had a period in six months? And before then, you've been regular?
You have to see your doctor. Who knows what's going on? Time to be brave, and make sure that everything is okay with you.
Best wishes to you.
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reader, angelwings7 +, writes (28 June 2010):
angelwings7 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionalot but i dont know yet and im waiting till i know for sure to start freaking out about every thing. i already havent had my period in 6 months becuas i have been stressed out and yes i have taken a pregncy test befor this all went down to make sure and it came out negative but now this just happned yesterday and im trying to get my stress level to go down so i can finaly have one.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 June 2010):
So how much trust would she lose in you if you were pregnant?
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reader, angelwings7 +, writes (28 June 2010):
angelwings7 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe condom was inside me.
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reader, angelwings7 +, writes (28 June 2010):
angelwings7 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni would tell my parents but my mom doesnt want me having sex. i want to tell her but she freks out alot and she would lose more trust in me then she has already has. and she would never let me see him again.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 June 2010):
It's time to tell your parents that you are sexually active. You have the chance to take emergency contraception, but at your age, you will need a prescription from your doctor. Time is of the essence, as the emergency contraception or 'morning after pill' is most effective taken within 72 hours. Its effectiveness diminishes with time.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/emergency-contraception-morning-after-pill-4363.htm
The thing about being sexually active is that you are doing adult things--you have to be prepared for the consequences, and it sounds as though you really aren't ready.
Please go tell your parents; they love you and want what is best for you. If you're old enough to have sex, you are old enough to face the consequences, I think.
Here's another site for you to look at: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/crisis/10_common_myths_misunderstandings_and_big_ol_lies_about_emergency_contraception
Good luck to you.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 June 2010):
 You can go to planned parenthood and get a plan B. It stops pregnancy from happening. Looks like a condom is not safe enough. You may want to get on birth control. From what I heard you don't need a parental consent to get one. There are places you can go for a low cost or free services. Abstinence is the only way to prevent pregnancy 100%. Next time your boyfriend pulls out tell him to hold the base of the condom and pull out gently. Or he could even pull out before ejaculating. There are really many reasons besides pregnancy and STDS not to have sex when you are young. These are higher risks of HPV and cervical cancer in the future, fear of getting caught by parents of friends, fear of getting caught by teachers or police.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): well sweetheart im 16 and im sexually active too. actually i have alot of sex lol with the same guy though, but my mom has always told me " if your old enough to have sex your old enough to take care of a baby" so you have to know with sex theres always the chance of a baby. always! if you trust a guy to stick his penis in you you trust him to give you a baby, see me and my boyfriend have talked about it, sex is something we do together to have fun and explore eachother :). but if that trust isnt there then there is no reason to be having sex with him. honestly. but i dont kno your situation just kno whats going on. i think just to be safe by the test and when you find out your results if no i would talk to your mom about getting on birthcontroll- its easy to ask her for that then to ask for dipers i promice you. and if the outcomes yes well then your on your own..i have no advice for that. but dont panic and just think positive. everything will happen the way its suppost to. :) good luck
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reader, duhmaris +, writes (28 June 2010):
Well first off, maybe you shouldn't have sex if you're not ready to accept the consequences. This is something I have seen happen many-a-time. If you know you're not ready then why put yourself in that situation? I've been in your shoes, freaking and worrying. It's honestly better to live life knowing you don't have to worry about that stuff, until you're ready to worry about it. Trust me, I know it's WONDERFUL, but it isn't worth the pain.. until you are ready.Second, store bought tests aren't always accurate. I know it sucks, but maybe you should wait it out until your next period date. If nothing, buy a test. If you're not sure, go to the doctor or a free clinic.Third, did it bust? Was there still that barrier between your vaginal canal and his "seeds"? I know it's hard to tell, but if the condom was just hanging out of you, you may have less to worry about. If it was INSIDE on you to the point that you may have definitely had contact with his sperm, you should worry. If this was recent, like days old, buying a test will do nothing yet.
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reader, Libraquarius +, writes (28 June 2010):
 It was very responsible of you guys to use a condom. However, it sounds as if he used a condom that was too big, and when that happens it puts you at a high risk for an accidental pregnancy. It is a good idea to take the tests after you miss your period so you get accurate results. If the test turns out to be positive, go to a women's clinic to double check. Although uncommon, there have been reports of false positives. After the pregnancy is confirmed, know your options and decide what is best to do about the situation. Abortions are legal with or without parental consent, but perhaps it is best to talk to somebody close to you before making that decision to make sure its what you truly want. Legally, it is your choice. :) If you decide to carry on with the pregnancy, that is very brave of you, and it will be very hard at times. Be sure to continue doctor visits so the baby is strong and healthy. Adoptions can be arranged so that you can have updates of your baby (open adoption) or arranged so that you do not have to hear from the adoptive parents ever (closed adoption). And of course, you can carry your baby and raise him or her yourself. If you are not pregnant, thank your lucky stars and make sure to use properly sized condoms from now on. Good luck!
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