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writes:My girlfriend and I have recently become engaged. Everything has been great. But one thing bothers me. She is an in home care giver to a handicapped man and sometimes when she goes to work for him for a few days she often goes long periods of time without calling me or answering my calls. Before you guys jump down my throat, it is unusual for us to not talk to each other 6 or 7 times throughout a day. So it is wierd when she doesn't. Honestly, it probably wouldn't bother me so much if she hadn't screwed up while over there a few years ago and cheated on me. So I get uneasy when she doesn't call. Mostly though, it's cause I love her and miss her voice when she is not around. I know I have nothing to worry about anymore, honestly. We've gotten passed all that. So, i'm just wondering, am I being overly needy here or insecure or just plain stupid in love? LOL.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2010): First of all I find it hard to believe she works 24/7. If you are her fiancé she would climb the roof of the mans house if she had to in order to call you.
Maybe calling you less would be normal but not calling at all for days? That's a huge red flag. Especially since she's cheated before.
I'm sorry to tell you this but I think she's cheating.
My advice. Don't confront her about it and next time she leaves for work...take a sick day or show up randomly when she is supposed to be off. Just to drop off "flowers" and see what she is doing.
Take a friends car. Normally I wouldn't advise this kind of behavior but given her history and the situation I think it's called for.
Find out now while she is still just a fiancé and before you get married.
Not calling for days is seriously unbelievable...
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (22 January 2010):
 you married her knowing she cheated.
either break up, or don't be overly sensitive.
i vote dont be overly sensitive
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (22 January 2010):
 Yes you're being overly sensitive and needy. She's at work! People can get fired for texting, and personal calls while they are working. Let her do her job!! You are over-reacting. Please lighten up.
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