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writes:Ok so about two months ago i had sex with this guy who already had a girlfriend and she's pregnant. I was the one who asked him to have sex with me but i had no idea he had a girlfriend especially a pregnant one. but anyways when we did it we got walked in on and i guess eventually more people found out and so did his girlfriend, Well now he won't even talk to me or anything at all and he said its my fault! well what did i do wrong?? i had no idea about this girl or the baby and now its even worse, there is a slight chance i may be pregnant from him to. . . ugh
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reader, LilPixie  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 EVEN IF you had known, it wouldn't be entirely your fault as he would have been the one who gave in!
Like CaringGuy said, he's most likely to just be blaming you because it is easier than taking the blame himself. Plus it won't make him look as bad.
I'd say take a test as soon as you can if you think you really might be pregnant. Break all contact with him, whether you're pregnant or not, guys like him to not deserve to be a father! And let's say you are pregnant and you choose to keep it, yes it would be hard in the future, especially when the child then asks about his/her dad, you can tell him/her that he wasn't a very nice person and you didn't want him near her/him.
But there is no point getting worried that you may be. Wait till you find out for sure.
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reader, ElectricSheep +, writes (16 March 2010):
 How is this your fault?! It's not! You didn't know he had a girlfriend, one that is pregnant on top of that. He's the one who should've let you know he was in a relationship. Like CaringGuy said, he's blaming you cause it's easier than blaming himself.
If there's a chance, you can talk to his girlfriend and let her know that the guy didn't mention anything about already being in a relationship.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 March 2010):
Nothing. He's just blaming you because you're easier to blame than himself. What do you think he is saying to his girlfriend? He is telling her that it was you who came on to him and you who led him astray. It's not your fault. And if you think you're pregnant, get tested.
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (16 March 2010):
 id take a pregnancy test and decide from there how you are going to deal with this situation.his probably not talking to you and blaming you because he has realised he has made a huge mistake and is suffering the consequences from his girlfriend finding out.its not your fault at all he should have been honest with you and told you he had a pregnant girlfriend before going through with sex his at fault not you so i really wouldnt worry about it just try and move on
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