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kenji
writes:hey,i got a bit of an issue. I've checked google and things but i dont think anything but human experience can help me with this.i broke up with my G/F about 2 months ago, and shes now saying shes pregnant, but the only time we had sex was about 6 months ago, so she would have been bigger if she was pregnant. i know for a fact that she is lying but no one else believes me. but heres my problem, ive moved on and found the perfect girl but i cant get myself to be close to her, when i come close to her i am reminded of my ex, and become overwhelmed with hatred and destructive thoughts.I back off after this happens and i feel like my new G/F is backing off from me cause shes scared of me. What do i do? :( I dont wanna lose Emma but its only a matter of time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): To add what oldersister said, you could also talk about what you're feeling to your current lover. This way she will understand you better and will probably stop being scared of you, as you described it. If she really loves you, she'll be supportive, which I'm sure she will
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reader, Ask oldersister  + ♥, writes (30 June 2008):
 Hi, kenji. It sounds like you may have been with a girl that is pretty nasty and abusive and you are still getting over the anger of it all. Lying about pregnancy is really manipulative and underhanded. The good thing is, you know it's not yours and tests can prove that! She's just trying to maintain control over you. With your new girlfriend, I would steer away from thoughts that she's perfect because she could end up being just like the ex- we tend to attract the same type of people when we don't resolve our issues from past relationships. I think you need to take a break from your relationship to sort some of your feelings of disgust and hatred to give your future relationships a chance. I would suggest talking to an adult, someone objective that you can vent to. Having to deal with some manipulative ex that claims you are the father of her unborn child has to make you furious. I think you need some help managing her and doing some damage control. Take care.
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