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writes:Hey, I hope im doing this right !I have problems making friends and girlfriends.(2 questions)1. Friends:Im 19 turning 20, and by now I figured i'd have a list of friends as long as my arm and a girl in my life. However the complete opposite happened. Once I left school (3 yrs ago) I broke away from my school friends because they went down a road I didnt want to follow. But it was all good as I got into college and seen an opportunity to make friends and party it up. Well that didnt happen, the guys in my class were all either older dads or younger and socially challenged (couldnt communicate with people on a normal level, I.T geeks)After 3 years at college i've not made any friends, in a sad way im pretty much alone. Im a good guy and can make anyone laugh, but I have no idea how to make friends. Im starting uni after summer but I fear it will end up the same as college. Im also paranoid about feeling like I am imposing myself on people. How do I go about making new friends ?2. Girlfriends:Well needless to say im single and have been since I left school. Ive been single my adult life, and I have no idea how to even begin to tackle this problem. Im a descent looking guy with a great personality, but totally hopeless when it comes to women in an intimate situation. The few times im in a situation with good looking women, I wouldnt even begin to know if they are interested or not. I have low self esteem and have no experience to draw on at all. With summer now here its a situation thats getting me down, and im basically sleeping my days away and eating. How do I pull my finger out and get on the road to getting a girlfriend ?(sorry if its a bit long, but I could have gone on for about 5 pages LoL)
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reader, xcharlottex +, writes (30 June 2008):
It's obvious you dont know the secret to being popular and good with girls...want to know?
The secret is CONFIDENCE. When you ooze confidence and a careless attitude, people are automatically drawn to you.
& I know you're probably thinking how do I get to be that confident?
Be yourself...If you have something to say...dont hesitate just say it! Love the time you spend with yourself and apreciate what a great person you are, everyone has flaws & it makes you so much more attractive if you're just able to laugh about them...I DO! haha
I'm known for not caring what people think, and people love it!
People come and go all the time ALL the time, noones going to stick around forever, so why give a damn what they think of you, you're born alone, you die alone, look after number 1 yeah?
Get onto social networks like facebook & myspace
Go out to clubs (even if it's by yourself, just stand up straight, be confident, and you'll look more like a cute confident guy who thinks enough of himself to come out alone rather than the loner geek you're scared of looking like)
You're just in a rut...
Let me know how it goes! :)
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