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*amiOf2
writes:Ok, I am not happy in my relationship. My husband is a drunk. Binge drinker to be exact. He may go 4-5 days sober, and that's if im extremely lucky. Then a week or more streight drinking. He's been drunk by noon at times. Sometimes 4, sometimes later. But the point is he's drunk A LOT Im Mexican and not to be funny but damn, I know ppl that drink a lot and he far exceeds what im use to! Its rediculous the things he says when drunk too. Very hurtful. He says he hates me, he wishes i was dead, im nasty, i suck in bed. Not to be a stuck up but trust me those comments couldnt be farther from the truth. I think he has some deep anger issues. I pretty much know it because thats the only way i can explain him in my own mind. Its like jeckyl and hide when he's sober to drunk. Sober him is all adoring and loving towards me, constantly telling me what a great wife i am and mother and how much he loves me, drunk he hates me. I tell him when hes sober, if he has hidden issues with me let me know so we can work on them/ Tell me what i do wrong and i'll try to change. But he'll say something like "nothings wrong, you're great seriously, im just stupid when i drink. I dont even remember saying those things" i can quote it because i hear it so often. Hey, do ppl like this ever change? Prbly not, ritE? Im just wasting mine and my childrens time in this bottomless pit of a marriage?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 November 2008):
He is an addict and he needs to stop drinking.
Tell him when he is sober that you can't go on living like this. Tell him you want him to get help for his drinking and to quit getting drunk.
If he's do that then it is not worth sticking with him. Your children deserve to grow up not seeing their dad act like that and get away with it.
They need to have a dad that respects their mum and is a decent guy.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, MamiOf2 +, writes (1 November 2008):
MamiOf2 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I've told him he needs to get help and he just says that he can stop on his own, that he "knows his limits" now and wont drink to that point anymore. But-he's been saying that for the three years we've been together. He drinks hard liqour only. Vodka or cogniac. And he mostly does it at his business he owns, so he'll come home wasted. Or, on the weekends if we have people over, we'll all have a drink or two. He'll be dissapearing into the kitchen every 5-10 minutes tho, so i know he's drinking in there. He'll be so drunk by the time people go home. He'll be quiet in front of them, he wont act crazy or anything, but then he'll tell me all this bad stuff when they're gone, and the newest thing is telling me everyone cant stand me or that someone said something bad about me to him. When hes sober he says he doesnt know why he says those things. But I told him he needs to get help or change soon because im halfway out the door and ive not told him that before.
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reader, babomi  +, writes (1 November 2008):
 he s not responsible to admit how hurtful he is when he s drunkit s not a good signyou and he must start from there
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