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writes:Hi, before reading this i can only say its rather long but in the end a pretty good situation that im stuck in and need help from more then one person with.Hi, I am an early 20's male inseek of much advice,When I was 15 I met a girl named Megan at the time I had never had a girlfriend and never really spoke to a female outside of light conversation, we hit it off and became good friends and started dating. After a year we decided to have sex for the first time(mine and her first time).The sex was great all through our relationship it seemed to be the one thing we never clashed heads on, everything else was I go right she goes left ,I stay up she sleeps ,I fall she stands up.After 4 years I decided to end it assuming I would find an equal if not better sexual partner and someone who had more in common with me. Here enters kimmy my current girlfriend and what I beleave to be my soulmate , she loves everything about me as do I of her and we agree on everything never fight and just in genrel love the same things.Now I have been with kimmy for 5 years and she really is what I beleive to be the love of my life , i just dont see how anyone else could be more perfect as far as social aspects go.The problem lies with in the sex,I am a very very sexual person, kimmy is great and I could go with just having her for the rest of my life, but megan was so much better at it.The thing i havent mentioned yet is that through the 5 years of dating kimmy ,I have been sleeping off and on with megan just strictly sexual intercourse no feelings of any sort involved. She has tried it with other men and I have tried it with other woman but we can not find the same satisfaction in the bedroom except when with eachother.In a way if it hadnt been for Megan I couldnt have made it past the early stages in the relationship with kimmy because of how bad the sex was.Me and megan have both said to each other that when one of us is engaged that it would have to be the end(but i know that soon as she finds a man willing to give her everything she needs she will stop sleeping with me ), I guess I have always used this agreement as a ...marker to when i know i can beceom a better person and be only with kimmy.I do not want to sleep with anyone else outside of these 2.The QustionSo I know that im not the best person for cheating on kimmy but me and megan left on such bad terms (we both wanted to see what was out there while we were still inlove),that is it so bad that i sleep with Megan till im engaged or she finds someone? In all realness i wish i could just stop but i cant , she just knows i wont say no when she calls.Please someone tell me its not so bad to just be with Megan till the deadline ,put my guilty mind at ease or do I have to stop no matter what?
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reader, steph007  +, writes (11 December 2010):
The ideal scenario would be that if Kimmy and Megan's partner accepted this situation. Anyway, this is not so unusual than you think of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno its most certinly without her knowing
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 Does your kimmy knows that you still sleep with megan or u doing it behind her back? Poor kimmy! Selfish you!..stop this now.focus on the one you want to be with!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): I am not going to say it is not so bad. How would you like it if your girlfriend did this to you?
If the physical side of your relationship isn't working out, then you need to stop sleeping with the other one and work on getting your sexlife with your girlfriend better. Sex is an important part of any relationship and to be truly happy, you need both the sex and the rest of it to be good, not just one.
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reader, mysticpurple  +, writes (10 December 2010):
Hi there
To be honest you already know the answer... your love triangle has to stop... and choose which one you want to be with if you cant .. well be fairer on all three of you if you finished all contact with both of them and find someone who you love and satisfies you in the bedroom.
You are not being true to yourself or these two girls.
good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn the conversation it says i slept around, this wasnt while with kimmy it was before, the only female i have been with while with kimmy is megan.
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