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writes:I need advice on what is the best way to deal with when running into the guy who hurt you so badly and upset you more than you've ever been? My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me nearly 2 weeks ago in a club with no compassion, decency or any respect. He showed no feelings for me when he did it, he honestly made ending it look so easy and that I meant jack shit to him! Oh and then straight away carried on enjoying the night with his friends unfazed at all! The horrible thing is i'm sure i'll run into him soon since we both go the same bars and clubs and this town isn't that big, so it's bound to happen. And i'm prepared for running into him any moment on a night out and yes, I do plan on ignoring him, unless on the chance he talks to me (which seems unlikely). I mean is that a childish and petty thing to do by ignoring him and not giving him any attention? Or do I smile and say hi? Or what if say the chance he happens to come over and talk to me, because i sure as hell wont be going out of my way to talk to him.. I don't know whether to be nice and just talk normally? Because I don't want to be rude and him think i'm being bitter, but then i don't want him to think because i'm being nice means what he did was okay...I just have no idea how to deal with something like this! I mean it still hurts, but I don't want to come across bitter and him to know i'm unhappy, but then like i said i don't want him to think it was okay what he did. What is the best thing to do? Talking and ignoring wise? Advice would be amazing right now!
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (18 February 2013):
totally ignore him but keep a distant smile on your face so that he will see he has no impact on you and so that you look happy even if you're not. good luck Ive been in that situation before
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (18 February 2013):
 I would ignore him but also enjoy myself and look happy, the best punishment for an ex is to see the woman you gave up happy and least bothered about his presence.
Also dont act over the top. If he greets you just be polite and carry on talking to someone else like he means nothing to you.
You need to show him that life has move on and you are better off without him. No scenes no staring at him just ignore him and have fun
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