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writes:what would be the most unpainful position, for my girlfriend during sex?if the time comes i really dont want to hert her,what is the best way to make it as painless as possible for her?i would do enything, to keep from hurting her if it meant stopping if it was hurting her. and do condoms make it hurt more or less? i would always use one either way.thanks, for the help.
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reader, AngelaGoodnight  +, writes (10 February 2014):
1. Unless she is on the pill or wanting to get pregnant, you MUST use a condom. IT IS AN OLD WIVES TALE that you cannot get pregnant the first time. How the devil do the millions of sperm know they are entering a virgin, "Here we go boys, oh wait a minute, she's a virgin, switch off your life-ruining powers!"2. Missionary is best. Use a lot of lubrication and get her to lie with her knees raised and thighs apart.3. You might believe you should be tentative and gentle, but if there is any pain it should be got out of the way quickly so line yourself up, thrust in once quickly and then withdraw and re-enter her more tenderly.This post is very late, so won't be any help to the original questioner, but hopefully will help others who find the question in the future.
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reader, katt11 +, writes (7 December 2009):
i dont know what dannabo is going on about.. you need to use a condom or some form of contrception, dont worry it wont break :/ but you already know this so its fine.i agree with most people , missionary will be best and just talk and make sure your partner is RELAXED. that is the main thing to keep in mind, the more worried/ nervous she is the more it will help/good luckkk x
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reader, dannabo +, writes (12 February 2009):
 You cannot use a condom on a virgin. It will definitely break.
You can allow her on top so she will be in control. Use lots of foreplay and get her as aroused as possible. It will loosen her and she will be more willing to push harder. Be patient and go very slowly. It may not go in very far the first time. So don't rush things.
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reader, Crisy +, writes (12 January 2008):
 Really, you need lubracant, i think condoms have a little lube on them as well so it might make it easier. It better for the girl to go on top for her first time so she can decide how far she wants you to penetrate into her so it doesnt hurt x
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reader, truly_unique  +, writes (28 December 2007):
i agree with all these comments.
definately missionary or "the cat" with you on the top.
obviously with a condom and LOTS of lubricant
good luck
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (27 December 2007):
 probably missionary but be gentle and go slowly with her the only way to make it less painful is make sure she is very turned on and wet but go at her pace if she looks like she is in pain STOP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): i would think that the most painless sex position would be "the cat". thats when the woman lays down, and the man enters her pussy and she holds onto his (your)neck and (you also have to support your weight with your arms so you dont squish her, i had that happen many times =] ) and since shes a virgin, i would push very softly, and tell her that if she starts feeling any pain, make her tell you.
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reader, CorpusDei +, writes (27 December 2007):
 Your best bet for the first time is probably going to be missionary. More important than that is to get her as worked up as possible before hand, that will make things a lot easier for her. If she's comfortable with it, spend _plenty_ of time going down on her. This will help a) get her hot and bothered, b) get her wetter, and c) if you give good head, everything else after that will be good times. You might want to use _gently_ finger her for awhile to help her get used to it. If she's used a vibrator or dildo it'll go a little easier, but just be slow, be gentle, use lots of lube the first time and remember - this is not a porn with you as the leading man. Don't go jackhammering after 15 seconds or try to explore the Kama Sutra. That comes later.
As far as condoms hurting more or less, I don't think it makes much difference, as long as you're not using an unlubricated one. Astroglide is your friend (but a little goes a long way, as I rather messily found out my first time)
Anyways, good times and game on!
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reader, Tiger-Spirit86 +, writes (27 December 2007):
 The most gentle position for your partner would probably be the basic missionary (Boy ontop) as you will be able to control how deep you penetrate and the speed that you do it. Take it one step at a time and make sure it's what you both want before it happens.
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reader, dc.ryan +, writes (27 December 2007):
 It'll vary between girl to girl, some girls will get a huge amount of pain from their first encounter of sexual intercourse and some will barely feel anything.
There is no right/wrong position to make it less painful; you should start with missionary, as its a very simple relaxed position where your partner can relax on her back - you have more control over the depth/speed of your actions.
You do need to communicate with your partner during, asking her questions - how it feels, slower, faster, deeper / less - follow her instructions so she can get enjoyment out of it.
Ryan
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