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anonymous
writes:hey people. so... I'm just barly getting over this guy after 2 and a half years of crying over him. I know pretty pathetic right? but he was my first love so I guess I have a good reason. or maybe not. anyways. I've been through ALOT in the past two years. but I finally want to be in a serious relationship I'm ready for the real thing! so I need your guys's help. I dont really know if I'm honestly ready to be in a relatioship,, and and I don't want to hurt the guy if I'm not. so you tell me.I use to cry over this guy like 24/7.. and think about him every single second. now I rarly think about him but I still do at time not going to lie. but not as much as usually. I don't usually cry anymore. the only thing I usually cry about is when I feel like I won't ever be happy which I know at one point I will be. I'm in a relationship right now,, verrrryy new. but when me and the new guy fight I tend to cry because I can't handle thinking that in the end It might turn out really bad and and be hurt worst then the first time. so what should I do? stay away from guys for a little bit or see where this takes me and and dont fall hard fast? Reply to this Question
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (1 April 2009):
 hun you don't seem like you're ready for this relationship.
i'd back away for a bit and gather yourself together you need to have some you time and be by yourself for a while and endulge on checking out guys and just not having the strings of a relationship i'm not saying a sleep around or anything im just saying enjoy the population of guys and if anything should pop up and you feel ready then go for it.
but you can't always be afraid of hurting the other person hun sometimes it's just got to be done it's a way of life and alot of the time it makes people all the more stronger.
don't feel bad if you hurt the other person offer then friendship so they know you still care for them and want them in your life.
if they react badly then leave them be for a while and let them gather there thoughts.
but at the moment hun you need to keep away from guys for a while and regain happiness with yourself and feel more comfortable about being with a guy in a relationship situation.
Hope this helps hun.
message me if you need anymore help :)
Chin up!
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