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What should I do next? should I ask him out?

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Question - (30 August 2010) 14 Answers - (Newest, 18 September 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much else because I had only gotten 1 hour nights sleep the night before! But anyway, I didn't really see him much until the second to last day on the Thursday and we were in the same team for raft building (he was sitting in front of me on the raft) and we introduced ourselves. We had a real laugh, he helped me back on multiple times and it was great. Really great. Didn't see him again until about 3 hours later and then he suprised me. He was completely engrossed in a conversation with the rest of his team or so i thought. I walk past with 3 other people in my team and i hear "Hi [my name]!" i was like so suprised and said hi back but was so suprised that was it. I saw him at the disco later and almost asked him to dance but chickened out. We were both on the same journey back to London in the morning and wound up on seperate coaches but we both had window seats and he waved to me everytime he saw me looking. :)

once we got to London, we were talking a little then it was time to leave. Got home, facebooked him and everyone else and he did the same, then about two minutes after, he wrote on my wall asking me if i got home okay and how i was. Bear in mind, in all of the people he added and accepted from camp was people he had made great friends with and yet we had spoken 3 maybe 4 times the whole holiday and yet mine was the only wall he wrote on. :)

Following that, we have had multiple conversations on facebook almost everyday even when he went on holiday he came online to ask how my results went and how i was. :) One conversation lasted 6 hours!

Its all great, but the thing is I cant stop thinking about him ever since he said hi after the raft building. He is always on my mind and whenever I remember his smile I feel so so great inside. :)

There is an issue however, although we may both have been traveling to London, he had a short hop on the underground from the station and I had an hour long, 20 quid, train journey!

What do I do? Its crazy because I barely know the guy but it feels like we've known each other forever and he agrees. Should I take the plunge? Ask if he has someone special then if its a no ask him out as my mates say? I would love it if we could. But what about the distance? People make the commute to London from my town every day so its not too bad but I dont know. Please help me. What do I do? What should my next move be? Please help!

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A female reader, LLindy87 United States +, writes (18 September 2010):

LLindy87 agony auntawesome!! that's so great! I think that you should pick a day that works for the both of you and a day where you can spend a lot of time together since you live so far apart, the time spent together is more meaningful then. and HAVE FUN!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2010):

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Well I did it! I asked him if he wanted to maybe meet up just me and him sometime and he said that that would be nice!!!! :D We started to plan it but then he had to go, so far we've come up with a location (sort of) to meet (At the station). Now I am getting EMA but an anytime day travel card there is basically 30 quid so I will have to work out how to work it. Though I am getting paid from my new job soon so fingers crossed I will be able to do it! :D

Any tips for arranging/when we meet?

Thank you so much for all your help! :D

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A female reader, LLindy87 United States +, writes (8 September 2010):

LLindy87 agony aunthmm, well you can either take the leader role and get everyone from camp to cooperate to get together or you can go for just you and him. Either way, you will get to spend time with him, the one on one would be more focused on you two though.

Well when you're talking to him online and lets say the conversation turns to movies, maybe mention seeing one together sometime. Ya know, you get the idea.

The money part, hard to say as I don't know what options you have to get money. do you have a job? can your parents lend you some money? a friend?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010):

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Anyone have any ideas? :/ I really need help with this one :(

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010):

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Okay... i guess i could try that. Only problem is me getting the money together to go there (if thats what happens) :/. We are already arranging to meet up with others from camp, but that's kinda up in the air atm, so would a single meet be best in your opinion? :) oh and how would you suggest posing the question? I am rubbish at this kind of thing if you hadn't already guessed!

and thank you, i hope so too!

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A female reader, LLindy87 United States +, writes (4 September 2010):

LLindy87 agony auntwell it can be that easy, when you are talking on facebook you can mention getting together and see how he responds to that.

and you're welcome :) I hope this works for you !

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010):

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I would love to go for it, but how would I do it? I just dont think it would be as easy as just asking him to mini golf :/

Thank you so so so much for all of your help! :D

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A female reader, LLindy87 United States +, writes (4 September 2010):

LLindy87 agony auntwell that issue is up to you, if you want to go for him despite the distance then go for it, if you don't then I guess ya don't.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010):

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You say I should go ahead and ask him, but what about the distance issue? Its just over 40 miles and a £20-£45 train journey to get to his. :/ Any ideas?

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A female reader, LLindy87 United States +, writes (2 September 2010):

LLindy87 agony auntI love it! Congrats! I think you should ask him out next time you talk to him, you could be direct and ask him to a movie, dinner, mini golf, etc. Whatever activity you choose or you can just ask him to hang out and see if anything is there, which is sure seems like it!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010):

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Okay, I asked him. He said he is single, then asked if I was :)

My friends are all saying I should ask him out, but I am not sure how to do it. Any ideas?

Thank you for all the help so far :)

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A female reader, LLindy87 United States +, writes (1 September 2010):

LLindy87 agony auntyou could ask him flat out like that, it would show confidence. Or you could ask someone that knows him if you're too shy to do that.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2010):

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Okay, well a load of us are supposed to be meeting up at some point, but do I ask him if he is 'attached' to anyone?

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A female reader, LLindy87 United States +, writes (31 August 2010):

LLindy87 agony auntI think you should mention you two hanging out sometime, just be like "hey, we should get together sometime"

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