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Should I fight for us? or let us go?

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Question - (31 August 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 31 August 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

hi

my boyfriend has just broke up with me a few days ago, and i dont know how to feel about it! i felt like he put me second so i would moan and argue with him n he said he has had enough of me and doesnt want to be with me anymore!

he doesnt seem to understand that in a realtionship you have to work at things and understand what the other person is going through! he never wante to come out with me, meet my friends, and when i would say something about it he would just hit the roof!

we broke up last month for a few weeks and got back together in hope he would change! beacuse i broke up with him first because he would always put his mates first and only see me when it suited him!

should i fight for us again or just let it go?

im 24 and have been with him for 3 years should i let him go?

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A male reader, Jmtmj Australia +, writes (31 August 2010):

Jmtmj agony aunt"im 24 and have been with him for 3 years should i let him go?"

Ask yourself one simple question...

If you got back together and he didn't change at all in the ways you want him to... EVER!!... and you knew this...

Would you be happy with him?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010):

Hi, I am sorry to hear about this. But I have a boyriend and we fight all the time and sometimes he acts like a total jerk but of course I still love him. I think you should deff fight for him, 3 yrs is a long time. Tell him how you feel, try to talk to him and make him see your side of the story. Good luck.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (31 August 2010):

At first, I thought that maybe you two could have sorted this out by talking. Then at the end you admitted that you'd been together for 3 years, and in that time basically he has never wanted to meet your friends or really go out with you, but was happy to go out with his friends and see you when you wanted.

Like I said in an earlier post to someone else, love can utterly blind the senses of all logic. In that respect, it can be a pain, because people will ignore or miss signs that they are with the wrong person. That's kind of what you've done with this idiot boyfriend of yours. At 3 years, he should have been showing a lot more interest that he has done. I suspect that in many ways you've been used as more of a casual girlfriend that a really committed one. You even broke up, hoping he would change, only to come back a few weeks later. Changing takes years, not just a few weeks.

I think after 3 years of being second best, it's time to let go and find someone much better,

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