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writes:What should i do?People whohave been following my relationship dilemma from previous posts know what i am refering to.I broke up with my bf a month ago and been very confused by signals hes giving me. loves me but cant have a gf etc etc.well... there A party friday night which i am going to and need to know how i should act around him as he just wants to be friends, but i dont dont believe thayt he does just want to be friends!should i just be pleasant and keep my distance and see if he just comes back after me? or should i make him jealous?what is the best approach??xxxx[moderator note: please add the relevant question links you've posted before to help answerers who are not familiar with your situation]
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Hi, Jackie, I think I posted an answer on one of these earlier questions you asked.
I think that if he really wanted to be with you, he'd be with you. It sounds like he's a confused child with no real handle on what he wants, the way you've portrayed him.
I have learned, sometimes through bitter experience, that when a man says he cannot be with you, for whatever reason, that means that he doesn't want to be with you.
So sad as it may be to say, I'd give up on this guy now, as it's only going to go on with you feeling badly about things and not moving on, as you said you were in previous posts.
Go to the party, without any expectations or plans with for the potential encounter. But do not expect him to suddenly change his mind and decide to be with you. Trust me, you'll be wasting a lot of precious time and energy on a guy who isn't available to you.
Have fun with your friends, and don't bother trying to make him jealous. It's not going to work, and it might make you look bad in front of other people. They might get the wrong idea about you....
Take care!
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-is-even-more-distant-than-before-is.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-has-completely-shut-himself-away-and-i.html
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Don't let this guy run your life. The party is a chance for YOU to have fun as an individual. You don't need him to be complete. He does whatever he does. Just go there and be yourself, mix with your friends, and have a good time. Be friendly to him when he's around, but don't follow him around and don't act needy. Your focus should NOT be on him, but on having a good time for yourself. Don't worry about deliberately trying to make him jealous or worry about his reactions to you at all.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Jealousy is a bad, nasty emotion so don't ever TRY to bring it out of someone. I suggest you just go to the party without any plans in mind except to have a good time. Life is full of surprises.
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