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writes:I have an issue... I was just in chatroulette and pretty much showed myself half naked to some random people, and well.. i wonder if it's alright, i mean if it's a big deal.. if i should admit it, i actually love showing my body to others but the thing is that i already have a boyfriend.I never want to cheat and i would never cheat on my boyfriend. But the question is if it's okay to show myself on cam to other guys?If i think about it.. it's pretty twisted. I actually don't want to have this kind of lust, but i do.i don't want to show myself to other guys but i guess i love compliments alot because i have a bad self-confidence. That's why i love showing myself.. but still.. it's wrong right?it's not the first time i've done it .. my other time was some time ago, when i took pictures of myself and i sent it to show some guys. Well i didn't particularly send it, but i showed the pictures and i saw them jerking to it..My question is, if its wrong? I bet it's wrong, but is it something that's really bad??i have a super problem with my boyfriend. Im a kind of girl that is hyper sensitive when it comes to him seeing other girls and complimenting them. For me it's wrong to do that. He has done that earlier, and since then i kinda lost my self confidence coz i thought that i wasn't good enough for him if he's looking on other girls. of course that's what you would think right? I don't want a boryfriend who looks on other girls when he already have me. It's just wrong.Since then i was showing myself to others. I told him the time i sent pictures to some guys and he wasn't happy about it at all. And i very much understand that, it's just hard for me. I don't know what to do, i love compliments and there is where my confident rises.Help, what should i do?
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reader, chocslop  +, writes (3 January 2013):
i think you should be open about your situation to your bf and tell him how you feel and if he doesnt accept you for it then he wasnt the right guy
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (9 January 2012):
 So you like attention and the power your body has over guys, THAT is normal.
However, what you are doing is NOT smart and it's NOT OK when you are in a relationship. How did you feel when HE showed off his privates on web cam to total strangers? Or how do you think HE would really feel if you told him what you did?
This is NOT the time to get "even" with him by doing something stupid. Two wrongs do NOT make a right.
You need to NOT get on the computer and let nasty guys spank off to you, like you are piece of meat. Goodness knows what kind of sick bastards are out there. And now... ANYONE of them can have you naked picture and sell it. Stay AWAY from people who ASK to see you naked or who wants to show themselves to you, specially random strangers - that is just creepy.
Work on your self esteem, girl! you are better then that!
And you and your BF need to have a sit down, talk about what you BOTH think is right and wrong to do in the relationship. Like Chigirl said, if it's something you can't do or say in front of your BF then it's NOT OK to do.
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/emotions/self_esteem.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2012): First of all it's wrong to show your body on chatroulette as you're so yougn! EW...!!! If you have to do it other BOYS (not men) do it in real life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2012): Hi
I can not say if it is right or wrong! but i would not advise you to do it...I won't make you feel bad either however be aware that it can esculate into other things.
Most girls do feel insecure and feel the need to use their sexuality to bolster their self confidence. Men do look at other girls, but you should remember the other girls boyfriends would be looking at you just as much. You can not control this but accept that you too are beautiful especially in your boyfriends eyes...this is why he choose YOU.
Regards your confidence....find something you are excellent at such as a sport and develop it to it's highest or do you want to learn something new ? you will find your confidence rise. Yes showing our naked bods is fun for a while but what about when it goes..what will feed you then? This is not unique many women/young girls can and do the same...and we pretty much all have the same attributes...you have special talents that are UNIQUE to you only and this is what you should UNCOVER.
I think no less or more of you for your antics however I think you have more to offer than just showing a body without clothes....it's pretty basic nudity anyway....go for the unusual.....rocket science....or try it in live art classes. If you still want to do it ....do it with style.
But don't feel shame, it is an experience that you tried and hopefully will move out of.
spunky monkey
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 January 2012):
 Most people like attention. But have you ever heard of an attention-whore? An attention-whore is someone who sells themselves off cheap just to get attention. Which is, no offense just being honest, what you are doing. You are showing yourself off not because you love to show off, but because you love the attention, and you are willing to strip to get the attention you love so much. You've got a boyfriend. This behaviour IS NOT ok. You are bordering on the lines of cheating, and you are deceiving your boyfriend by offering your body like free porn to guys online... just so you can get attention. As a rule of thumb; if you can't tell your boyfriend what you are doing then you shouldn't be doing it. If you love compliments try to get compliments from someone else and about something else, rather than pervs online who just want to see you naked. Anyone can get complimented for that, guys online will say anything just to get you to take your clothes off, and then they can record it and show it off to all their other friends while saying "look what I got this girl to do for me". Instead work on getting well earned compliments that you can feel PROUD of. There's no pride in producing online pornography. As for your boyfriend and the insecurity issues you have with him: deal with them. Getting attention from other men about your body and having them jerk off to you is NOT dealing with it. Your problem with your boyfriend doesn't go away by you doing this, that problem is still there, and will continue to stay there until you DEAL with it. Talk, communicate, work through it or dump him. Personally I think you need to take a good look into what is acceptable in a relationship and what isn't, and find a compromise with your boyfriend and work through the trust issues.
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