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writes:i am in relation from last 4 yrs. We both love each other, but my partner is very hot tempered. I never wanted to hide anything frm him, he is my first and last love. i have many male friends, yesterday i told him about my phone chat with one of my friends though it was normal chat regarding notes.... he started shouting at me.... and he also said that im characterless. i was so dissapointed after hearing dis and decided to finish our committment..i cant marry such a guy who has doubt on my character but now he is apologising..and is the only important guy in my life.. should i forgive him and move on or finish everything. please do suggest coz i was planning to tell about us to my parents
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reader, rockshredder  +, writes (1 August 2011):
 Hi there. Forgive me in advance cause I am going to be blunt and straight forward.You cannot forgive him cause he is not apologizing. And as far as it is concerned, he should only apologize for calling you "characterless". This is the only mistake he has made. His objection is 100% genuine. I never understand one thing about you girls. When your guy flirts around, he is a 'jerk'. But if you have 15 guys having nonsence with you, and you are called a name, you feel so tortured. This is amazingly unfair. You should be apologizing to him or if it is so hard for you, atleast do one thing and that is stop expecting an apology from him.You are not ready to be in a relationship yet. Be in a relationship when you are fully prepared to be loyal to your guy. I am a university graduate and YOU CAN WORK WITHOUT GIVING AND EXCHANGING NOTES. AND IT COULD HAVE BEEN A GIRL AS WELL IF IT WAS ONLY NOTES.Please don't take anything personal. I condemn him calling you 'characterless' but it is more of your immaturity and mistake. Bless you!
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (1 August 2011):
 If he can't accept that you have a lot of guy friends, then you shouldn't be with them. He doesn't have to like them, but he should accept them. I don't see how you become characterless from having a phone conversation, but that's just me. Find someone else who won't explode over things like this.
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