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writes: so im 22 and after a couple of years of mutual attraction with a friend, we hooked up (no sex--everything else) the other night. now we've been very clear before hand that there will be NO relationship or attachy feelings (im hooked on another guy anyway who i cant really have)....plus, we're both very apprehensive about relationships, i dont trust guys, etc...so the night was good. we both had fun, and he said i had to make the next call or text. so i did text him and he didnt respond at all. i know if i want things to be care free i shouldnt care, but im mainly concerned that he changed his mind about our hook ups because quite frankly, i could really use just meaningless sex and fun. this is basically what i want to know: do you think he had his fun for one night and now thats it? he's the one who wanted me first but we couldnt bc of a friend, then after the other night he kept saying how he wanted to continue and that he's glad we're on the same page etc. and he also talked ab like years down the road that we'd still be hooking up, etc. it just puzzles me because here i am, doing as he asked, and he doesnt seem to care now. sorry so long, thanks a lot though.
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reader, camille  +, writes (13 June 2006):
 Give it time. Maybe he regrets it as you're good friends? Maybe he feels awkward? I know quite a few blokes who change once they've had sex with their friends, but hopefully he'll be mature enough to handle it and there's no reason it should effect your relationship if you give each other a bit of space. It's easy to fall into bed with a friend rather than a stranger when the physical need kicks in, but perhaps for now have some self-love fun until an available man you like (and vice versa) comes along!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 It's up to him now to respond. Don't contact him again until he does or you'll look too needy. He'll let you know if he's interested.
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