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*hocco
writes:I have been having an affair with a married man, and I've tried on numerous occasions to break off the relationship, but he continues to call, text, and demand days to spend time with him.We started out as just friends and one thing lead to another. I know it's wrong and that's why I've broken it off with him. I care a lot about him but,I know there isn't a future for us but he won't leave me alone. What is a woman that realized she made a mistake to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Well done, good for you!don't allow him to intimidate you.
Something to keep in mind when dealing with him, a quote by Ann Landers: Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and when it comes, hold your head high, look it squarely in the eye and say, "I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me "
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reader, Chocco +, writes (23 October 2008):
Chocco is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the advice, I am standing strong with my decision. After I posted this question, he called to see if we could meet to discuss the issue and I told him no. He stated, he just want to clear the air and just continue to be friends. I told him this isn't a good idea but, he insist on stressing me. The other problem to this cituation is; we work together so there isn't a way for me to avoid him totally. I don't know what to do, but I do know it's over.
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reader, missy love  +, writes (23 October 2008):
just egnore him compleatly you did the right thing and he also must realsise what happand was wrong you came to tearms with it and so must he
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Good on you for taking a stand and doing the right thing, it's not worth it. read Mae5 story on Sept 18th "My paramour used me for sex" and you will see the pain that she is now going through because of carrying on an affair, this story should be an example to all woman out there that it is not worth it. You stick to your guns and I'm sure you life will turn out far better than it would by allowing this man to manipulate you. Love to you and give youself a cuddle. Love Becky
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): If you don't have any sort of contact with him anymore, you don't have to do anything. Just keep ignoring him and his messages. If he won't leave you alone, call the authorities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Tell him you're not going to contact him and resolutely ignore every action he takes to contact you. You might even have to get a restraining order. Also, don't let him see feelings of guilt because he will see this as a chink in your armour and this will inspire hope and renew his unwanted attentions.
oh and by the way, congrats on calling off the affair! ur a good woman.
good luck!
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