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writes:I'm 19 and my girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half and things were going great. There was a time before during the relationship where i felt i needed her and when i didnt see her for a day i would feel awful and not want to do anything but i got over it and became less clingy. Just a couple of weeks ago we had an awful week and things were bad like everyday we hung out, so i asked her what was the problem and we cnsidered taking a break but we were both against that. Its like what we needed to be good again i suppose cause everything was going awesome. Now ever since then I can't be the same. Like when i'm with her i'm fine but when im not i dont know what to do. I try being with friends and all i can think about is her. Shes different though, she's not quick to text me back, she blows me off occasionally for friends, and shes not as lovey and affectionate as i am. If we dont talk much one day im like torn about it. Its like my happiness level relys on her and i hate it. Like i dont know why i get this way, and ive also been pretty emotional too!? I dont wanna continue being so attached and i try hobbies and friends but they dont work. If i keep this up im afraid that its gonna push her away. What inside of me makes me wanna be so attached? Maybe something with my parents divorce i thought but who knows! I just wanna be normal and myself around her because she's the love of my life! Please helppp!!
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reader, emb169  +, writes (26 May 2011):
It sounds like you are having a difficult time. It is hard when you like someone so much to be apart from them, I should know, I am in a LDR currently. But, sometimes relationships run their course, and maybe it would be better for you both to take a step back and consider what you want to do. Not a break mind you, because that always ends up just being a more long winded and painful breakup. Maybe try and spend less time together, I know you said you are trying to do hobbies and see your friends, but it isn't healthy to let one person take over your life. Once you've both had your space things might be clearer. The reason you are so attached is simply because you really care about her and you have been together a long time, so it is natural for you to feel almost dependent on her. Its so hard I know, but just talk to her and try and sort out what your feeling, make sure you are both completely honest. You really do need to try to become less dependent because you may end up getting hurt, and I know thats not really what you want to hear, but people telling you it will 'all be ok' isn't going to help. You need to be proactive. If I can help any further just message me
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