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writes:What does it mean by "wandering eye"? I've read a few posts here about women who are upset that their boyfriends/husbands are "looking" at other women. I've never read anything about a man who is jealous that his girlfriend/wife "looks" at other men though! Why do you think there's a sex difference, and what does this "looking" mean? I personally like to look at attractive people, male or female, simply because they are aesthetically pleasing
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (22 October 2010):
 "Some of those guys happen to be ADD as well."
What the??
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reader, Nime  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 I don't know why people care so much. I look at both men and women if they're good looking... or bizarre looking. It's just something to look at. I have a twin brother who has been confiding in me about 'hot women' forever (he will even call me up to tell me about some hot woman he just saw; he also calls his girlfriend to tell her... she is a good sport), so I am used to engaging in that talk and complimenting women where it's due. I expected the same from my boyfriend. I have seen him glance around from time to time, but oddly enough if I mention the girl a couple minutes later he genuinely has no idea who I'm talking about. He can't remember who the good looking actresses are, either. I believe many men are probably like this. Their eyes are just drawn to feminine curves because it elicits a dopamine (addictive) response, but they can't even remember what the girl looked like a minute later. I feel sorry for the poor dumb boyfriends around the world who are pestered by their girlfriends for 'looking' when in the vast majority of cases it means absolutely nothing.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 October 2010):
 I've heard plenty of questions on here from guys being upset by it and from women upset that their guy calls them on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010): I think its because they undress girls n their heads! And because its usually every other girl! I also heard, which really shows the dif. Btween males n females, that girls dnt like guys checking out other girls is the same as guys not wanting there girl to show their boobs n stuff to more confitent guys. Of course it varies frm guy and girl to guy and girl if u knw what i mean lol
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 October 2010):
 I had a wandering eye at 3 years old but it was surgically corrected.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 October 2010):
 Wandering eye-meaning men who spend more time ogling with their tongue wagging at other women than focusing attention on their woman. Some of those guys happen to be ADD as well.
Women check out both men and women. We're just more nonchalant about checking out cute guys. Now, I check out a woman if she's wearing a fashion blunder or if her boobs are ten times bigger than her head..Guys, I'll give them a glance if they're good looking. Now, if it's someone like Colin Farrell, then by all means my jaw will hit the floor and I will be moving in for a picture. So I don't discriminate against either gender.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 October 2010):
 A "wandering eye" is also a euphemism for saying someone is going to be a cheater. The implication is that they cannot stay focused on their current partner and are on the lookout for the next conquest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2010): I think men generally are more physically oriented, and perhaps tend to look at other women more than women look at other men. Women might analyze other men's actions, personality, etc. more so than their physical appearance.
I've never objected to women I've been with looking at other men. TO me it is unnatural to expect a person to never look at another person in that way, even if your relationship with them is perfect, they will still admire beauty. I think its terribly insecure to prohibit it.
That said, I would not feel good if she ogled other men all the time, or showed true signs of affection, attraction or love for other men while committed to me.
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reader, raiders +, writes (21 October 2010):
 I have a wondering eye and I love to look at cute guys I try not to disrespect my partner when I do this but Eye Candy is good for the soul.
My hunny knows I do this but he doesn't really gets upset over it. I don't throw a cow if I catch him looking at a gal.
I guess it depends if the person is just looking or hard core starring at an attractive person.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 October 2010):
I think men don't complain as much, because women are more subtle when eyeing a man they like up. With men, it's a bit obvious. Women are more subtle, so men don't see it. You'll probably find that the way you look at attractive people is not as in your face as a man, who would turn his head.
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